My bf (24M) and I (24F) have been dating for four years and I have been noticing his efforts towards the relationship decline. I sometimes feel I am putting more in both financially and emotionally. For example our date nights are pretty much 50/50 (for when we do go out) but he will come over many nights a week and I will make him dinner. Groceries where I am are insanely expensive, plus the time it takes to cook something from scratch is not nothing. When I ask him to do small things for me like buy me grocery store flowers I have to ask him at least five times. I talked to him about this and he says he shows his love by words and hanging out with me when he has the time.
I also didn’t take a temporary one month job up north (where I would be home on the weekends) because he was against it. I can understand his perspective but we don’t even see each other on week nights until 10pm because he’s usually working. So I am not sure why I couldn’t have taken the weekday job. Then he goes on to say why do you even stress about money when he knows I am going back to school in September. I feel he doesn’t think it’s important for me to have a job or career and he puts himself and his work first. He also says he’s doing all this for us but it doesn’t feel like it at all. Mind you he’s also way better off financially than I am and lives at home rent free so I am not sure why he is being so cheap. Idk am I overreacting, please be honest.
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TL;DR
I feel like I’m putting more into my 4-year relationship—emotionally and financially—than my boyfriend is.