Been together 2.5 years. During a fight, my boyfriend vented to his mom and told her all of my private insecurities, things I shared with him in confidence. I heard everything and I feel completely exposed and betrayed. These weren’t small things, they were deeply vulnerable admissions I never would’ve shared with anyone outside our relationship. He also dragged my character through the mud, for context I have postpartum depression. We’ve had some fights about workload, I do all the night feeds because he works but I sometimes get resentful when he takes naps and smokes weed, so he told her I’ve been out drinking and mushroom picking well. He never gets to see his friends. I went out only those two times, each for 2 hours as I ebf and baby is 6 months. Those are the only breaks I’ve had from her. There was so much more hateful things said about me.
Now I feel sick at the idea of seeing her, especially since I don’t know how she sees me. He apologized, but it doesn’t undo the fact that my privacy was violated out of anger. How do I move forward? Is it fair for me to say I don’t want to really have a relationship with his family after this?
TLDR; boyfriend vented to his mom about me, and shared personal stuff now I feel exposed and don’t want to see her. How do I move forward?
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But why do you want to have a relationship with him after this? This shows he has no respect and consideration for you. This is not love. If you are thinking about staying, there is a reason or something you really need to process. Because wanting to stay in this situation is not healthy for you. I hope you find the strength to start putting a plan together. Reach out for help. Don’t expose your child to this man ready to throw you under the bus for nothing.