I found a stash of pills in my husband’s pants pocket that looked really suspicious and counterfeit. I tested them for fentanyl (with a test I ordered online) and they tested positive. How do I approach this very serious and sensitive matter with him?
I found a stash of pills in my husband’s pants pocket that looked really suspicious and counterfeit. I tested them for fentanyl (with a test I ordered online) and they tested positive. How do I approach this very serious and sensitive matter with him?
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Approach with love and concern. Not anger or blame. My partner gave me so much love through my addiction, and that’s what got me and us through.
I understand it is a crazy complicated issue, but putting myself in your shoes, why wouldn’t you just directly ask why he has a goddamn pocket full of fentanyl and see where it goes.
You sound like a loving partner.
I work with folks battling substance misuse disorder and they are essentially trapped by the way addiction works in the brain. It takes a willingness to face both the physical and emotional pain and a strong support system. Most don’t have access to safe detox/recovery services.
The best things you could do include reserving judgement, educating yourself about addiction and your partner’s experiences, feel your feelings, and hold your partner accountable.
Your partner might not be ready to face things, or might not be willing to open up. You’re likely going to have some important decisions to make. Hugs.
Damn I’m so sorry for you because as someone with addiction issues I can see your future. Don’t be mean or judgmental but you need to set a hard line. If he can’t stop it’s over. Whether he goes to rehab, or he tapers (by giving you his drugs, and you only give him a little bit less every couple of days, all the way down till he’s not doing it anymore.)
Or even if he just locks himself in a room and sweats it out.
As long as he’s GENUINELY trying, try to be kind and understand that it’s extremely hard to quit that stuff.
I’m guessing this is the beginning and honestly idk if you really can imagine the hell on earth that addiction brings if you have never experienced it before
Why was your first response to finding pills to order an at-home fentanyl test? It sounds like there might be a history of substance use here.
Get narcon immediately. Then talk with husband and get him into therapy and also marital therapy to help you fight this together
This is actually a life-threatening situation. If he’s not aware the pills contain fentanyl, he could overdose and die on them. You need to inform him right away in a manner that shows how concerned you are about his well-being. Emphasize the fact that you don’t want to lose him. Explain how little fentanyl it takes to kill a person.
Also, get some Narcan and learn how to administer it, in case he doesn’t listen and you find him in the midst of an overdose.