There’s a family member coming to town today.
He is my uncle’s wife’s brother . And my family is suggesting he sleeps in my room. But I want my privacy and the freedom to do anything at anytime.
Am I an asshole for saying no and preserving my boundary?
Edit:
His brother stayed 4 years in my room after me saying yes to the same scenario.
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There’s a family member coming to town today.
He is my uncle’s wife’s brother . And my family is suggesting he sleeps in my room. But I want my privacy and the freedom to do anything at anytime.
Am I an asshole for saying no and preserving my boundar?
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> 1. I said no to my family to a thing that they suggested.
2. Maybe they didn’t expect me to say no since I’m a yes person
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YTA. It’s just a visit and family tries to accommodate family. You’ll get your privacy back when they leave.
Info: do they know him really well or is this pretty much a stranger to all?
you said it’s a long time he may be there so i wouldn’t want him there either if that’s a possibility. fish and company start to smell after 3 days especially sharing sleeping quarters
NTA, dude. Your room is your sanctuary, you gotta keep it that way. They already pushed their luck with the 4-year situation. Stand your ground and don’t let them make it a habit. Protect your peace bro – family or not.
NTA. Uncle’s wife’s brother? That’s a helluva stretch to call them family.
NTA…NO!!!
NTA — say that you did your share 4 years ago and that it is someone else’s turn this time.
NTA, age however could be very significant here and have a magnifying impact on the ‘Not’ bit.
NTA
If you’re not happy with it then you’re not happy with it. You can say no if you want but unless you own the property or are on the lease then you might not get much choice in the matter.
I’ll say NAH. They can ask. You can refuse. No issue with either of those
NTA.
If the rest of the family is keen for this visitor to be in a room rather than on the couch in the living room (in the way of everyone and everything) then maybe they want him in their room? I should think there is a reason for your room being chosen over everyone else’s, but it seems you have been put upon before.