My bf (29M) and I (29F) have been dating for 2 1/2 years and are planning to get married. We are super excited! As I was talking to my Mom (61F) about us, I was trying to explain to her how it’s a big step in a relationship when someone proposes. She expressed that you are engaged whether or not there is a ring if you both are planning to be married. While in principle this is true- I found this odd. She and my Dad never were officially engaged. Just had a casual conversation, and he picked out a ring and gave it to her one day. Never got down on one knee or officially proposed. She was surprised he didn’t- but just figured it was part of what people do where he’s from. She’s from the east coast and he was from the midwest. (US) They aren’t married anymore- their relationship really never was very communicative or romantic. My bf thought the idea of not proposing was “wild.” I’m genuinely curious- does this happen often? I would never marry anyone who didn’t get down on one knee. But maybe that’s just a personal preference.
TL-DR
Do people just pick out rings and get married and not propose? I can’t imagine.
Comments
People do whatever they want that makes them feel comfortable.
Although I will say, if you “proposed” the idea of getting married and agreed, then yes, you are technically engaged. It’s not odd.