My partner typically only wants to talk about most things on her own terms. Planning a trip, feelings, other issues in her life/my life/our life. I bring something up, she tells me about 90% of the time she’s not ready to talk about it. I usually say “okay” and wait for her to bring it back up, she’s rarely does, so I bring it up at a later date, then I am told i am not listening to her and I don’t give her a break from talking about difficult things. It’s starting to grate on me, I understand her setting a boundary but I can’t help but consistently feel like she always sets the timeline for when things get talked about or planned or solved and it makes me feel inconsidered and I’m scared that my needs will only be met on her timeline, not on mine.
Tl;DR: What do you do when you feel like you’re working on your partners timeline?