I recently realized that I have an anxious attachment style, and it’s been really affecting how I show up in relationships ,romantic ones especially.
I tend to overthink everything. If someone takes a while to reply, I spiral. I crave closeness and reassurance, but I also feel ashamed of needing it so much. I constantly worry that people will leave, or that I’m too much, even when things are going well.
I know it’s an old pattern and not always based on reality, but in the moment, the panic feels so real.
Any advice, stories, or tools would mean a lot.
I have anxious attachment and I’m struggling.
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Needing closeness doesn’t make you clingy, it makes you human in a world that taught you love was unpredictable. Don’t shame your sensitivity because if you don’t learn to soothe it, it’ll keep mistaking silence for abandonment.
yo i feel this deep, it’s like ur brain knows ur spiralin but ur body’s already in meltdown mode. ur not too much tho, ur just scared n wantin safety n that’s not a bad thing.
Idk how communication works for you and your partner, but for me, I let my partner know of my tendancies/fears before hand. I tend to feel like im too much and that i overthink a lot too, and we talked about the ways we both can deal with it whenever I spiral. I made it clear to her that I just need reassurance and she was more than willing to give that to me