essentially, I was SA’d at the beginning of this year and i never told my best friend (or anyone else for that matter.) i decided to share that event with my friend tonight and in response, she didn’t say a single thing. she just stayed in silence which left me feeling awkward, so i changed the subject. we hung out for a few hours after and she never returned to it or said anything about it.
i didn’t want to have a whole conversation about it, but her silence makes me feel so bad. i can’t stop thinking about it. it makes me feel like she couldn’t care less about me, or that she couldn’t be damned to feel bad for me. except, i KNOW she loves me. we are practically sisters. so, why would someone do that?
thanks a lot for reading 🙂
some context:
i was SA’d about three years ago and she was there for me through the police process. ~ a month after, she told me she kind of didn’t feel bad for me and wished she wasn’t there for me. she was a victim of CSA for the majority of her youth, she stated she felt that way because of that. it really hurt me when she said that, so that’s why i didn’t want to tell her this time around.
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