I admire women who own their curves and rock any outfit like they invented it. Meanwhile, I stare in the mirror and the first thing that hits me is, “You look huge.” Add the family comments, the PCOS struggles, and the flashbacks to when I dropped 30kg by basically starving myself and yeah, it’s a mental war.
I’m on a slow and steady journey now. Smarter meals, daily walks (when life allows), and trying not to hate my reflection. But wearing cute clothes still feels like a reward I haven’t “earned.”
To the confident plus-size baddies out there how’d you do it? How do you love the body you’re in now while still working on it? I need the real talk.
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Surrounding yourself with positive people and practicing self-love can really make a difference.
You gain confidence by acting confident. It is a neat trick by the brain.
But acting confident, means confident body language, confident position in the room, confident choices/actions. etc. No words make you confident, ever.
Luckily you can learn body language quite well from a book and practice. Continue on your journey of a healthy body, and your mental journey as stated above. The rest follows naturally
If you’re on a journey to reach a healthier size, be persistent, you’ll see the results
You can be confident in yourself only when you produce something you’re proud of
You don’t have to earn the right to be or feel confident in yourself or earn the right to dress a certain way. Dress how you want now, work towards your goals and stay consistent. You love your body by understanding that it’s the only one you’ve got, and while it may not be what you want right now, it’s still carrying you through life 🫶🏻
Sometimes you just need to fake it til you make it!
And anything high waisted helps 😊
You have to change your way of thinking. Try self CBT, it’s a very simple therapy you can do on your own. You learn to recognize untrue/toxic thoughts, label them and change them to positive and/or true thoughts, and you keep a journal/workbook of this. It will help you to put your efforts into perspective, and be proud of what you are doing as far as a healthy lifestyle goes.
There are tons of free resources and apps that will help you get started. Like everything it doesn’t happen overnight, and you do have to stick with it to maintain the new way of thinking, but it does work.
Aside from that, you need to go low/no contact with those who make disparaging remarks. You can give them a boundary to not say anything about your weight, but if they don’t stick with it you need to cut them out.
I started dressing really nicely and doing my makeup in fun ways. Didn’t make me skinny but at least i didn’t loathe looking in the mirror and when people complimanted stuff about me it felt honest.
I don’t think it’s something to be earnes, more like a crutch on the way to our goal