hey, never posted on reddit but a new account just incase
i (20F) have become very and id even go to say obsessed with sex and feel like i’m becoming addicted to porn.
i have always been very sexually open and kinky
but the last months i have found myself desiring things and wanting to participate in acts that could be classed as harmful, dangerous, or just borderline unethical and i am feeling the need to watch more and more extreme content
i’m scared that i have permanently rewired my brain and there’s no getting out of this
as a woman i feel so ashamed
i don’t know what to do as i know it’s wrong but yet can’t find myself able to stop
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Get yourself a bf, if you haven’t already. Stay off the internet for as long as you can. Go out and do activities and social stuff with people. If you don’t give yourself time to look at it eventually you will forget about it (hopefully). Also side note. Don’t answer any PMs as they are likely to try and prize the stuff your into out of you to satisfy their own sexual curiosity
edit* also don’t feel ashamed, it’s very common for people to go through things like this, just try your best to not let it dictate your life and habits.
I recommend listening to the book “Your Brain on Porn”. It does a great job explaining why people can develop specific porn preferences, like hardcore content, and how porn affects the brain. It literally changes our brain’s reward system over time, though the good news is that these effects are often reversible with time and abstinence.
To simplify it: porn addiction can lead to watching content you wouldn’t normally be into, because the brain starts seeking novelty to get the same level of stimulation. Sometimes, people feel guilt or anxiety about what they’re watching, and ironically, that emotional charge can actually enhance arousal, reinforcing the cycle.
“Your Brain on Porn” also provides helpful tips to try and stay away from it. Hope this helps!
I always recommend abstinence. That way you can work on being normal?
As long as you’re not harming you or others I don’t see a reason for concern. It’s healthy to understand what you enjoy and know yourself. I would try taking a break from porn and stick to using your imagination for 30 days and see how you feel after that.
You’re not alone, don’t let the shame consume you. This is a common thing in the year 2025, and as a 25m I had similar tendencies until I got engaged at 22, 19-21 I did many things I wouldn’t typically do just to quell the horns. Like fuck boy booty calls and leading women on, I hate that I did that, I do respect women but I guess you could say I was clouded by the addiction. Love and support pulled me out of it. You can do it.