Okay so, I’m a girl. Ever since I was a kid I’ve always found guys attractive and never really thought more than that until I was a teenager (around 10-13). I was more chronically online at that time because I was finally allowed to have a phone. And then I kind of realized that women are gorgeous too.
Now I feel more attracted to women than I am to men but I only want a relationship with a guy. I can see myself having a crush/fantasizing about a girl but never actually wanting to get into a relationship with her. I don’t know if I’m just an asshole but I would love to know if I’m bi or if I’m straight and I just get the usual girl crushes.
I’ve tried figuring it out on my own as well and I still cannot understand it so I’d like to get other people’s opinions about it.
Feel free to ask questions btw.
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Not uncommon. Sounds like you are attracted to both, but you are romantically interested in men. Nothing wrong with that. I had these fun female friends that would drink and make out with each other/other women. They both only dated men though. Sexuality is interesting!
Sounds like you’re bi and likely only want relationships with men because of how you’ve been conditioned.
You sound like bi. Me too and it was clear from a younger age but ended up marrying a man and am committed to him. You are probably like me I call it – blank slate love- you like the person not the gender. But you won’t know if you don’t try it! Good luck 🌈 🍀👍
Hey, sexuality is a spectrum. You can find women attractive and only choose to be involved with men, or vice versa. There’s such a push to label yourself now. Just don’t drive yourself crazy trying to split hairs. Let your attraction to others grow naturally and see where it takes you.
I remember going through this because I don’t find same-sex attraction gross. I wondered if that made me bi. Nope! Straight, just open-minded. 😀
I would guess potentially bisexual, pansexual, or some other label that includes pretty much everyone but you could also be bisexual but heterotomantic. There labels for both romantic attraction and sexual attraction.
You could also share this question to r/LGBTQ or other queer communities on Reddit
It sounds like you are bisexual, but sexuality is not black and white. Just go with what YOU want and what feels right and don’t worry about which socially acceptable box you can fit into.
Does it matter? Every new relationship is an experiment, regardless of gender! Focus on enjoying the journey of exploring yourself and your relationships with others. You might identify was straight now, gay next year, bi after that, queer-ish, whatever. There are no rules and there is no deadline to have your “true” identity figured out! So go have fun – and make sure you are a strong ally for trans people!! They’re on the front lines for all LGBTQIA+ freedom!
Here is some info on compulsory heterosexuality in case that helps with your self-exploration: https://utsvertigo.com.au/discover/queer-column-what-is-comphetquestion
You have an interest in both but right now, leaning more towards men. As you get older, it will become more clear.
Some men experience the same thing but because they were raised “straight” they have a hard time letting go of thinking themselves straight.
You may be similar raised as a girl with the whole marriage/family/white picket fence, Disney Princess mentality.
Time and experience will answer that question for you one way or the other.
you’re not straight
If you are sexually attracted to both men and woman then you are bi