Help from you experienced people (it’s about my GF)

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I am a male of and my gf is in her last year of school . I keep getting lots of updates from my gf’s friends who keep telling me that she’s hanging with way too many guys , adding to the wound my lil bro tells me the same I told her about what she’s doing and she says that “no I have stopped” but the reports keep coming is this a red flag or not (let me know what your thoughts are)

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  1. FlirtMused Avatar

    You are not overreacting when shallow comfort feels like betrayal after raw honesty. If your pain is met with empty words, it’s not because you’re too much it’s because they’re not enough.

  2. asghettimonster Avatar

    I’m so sorry, but if you believe your friends and lil bro, then ask her and you feel she’s lying, it’s time to cut it off. Don’t ever believe that there’s anyone you can’t live without. Life changes, People change, we all disappoint ourselves and someone else at some time or another. Take the high road, say good bye, tell her why, and leave and heal.

  3. TheDeceitX Avatar

    Obviously, some people never change and she could just be that kind of person. Nothing you can do about that. This would include each person is giving her something the other isn’t. Sometimes why they do things like this.

    You have some options, the least hurtful would be to stop doing some of the sweet things you do. This would then mean needing more to fill the gap. If this happens, you probably have more of your answer. However, you can always just cut it off. Maturely or immaturely.

    Ultimately, be an adult and talk it through with her. You’ll thank yourself later on you took the steps correctly and don’t feel like you need closure later on.

  4. Falcon-Simple Avatar

    Yeah fuuuuuck that

  5. LifeLivedLooksBack Avatar

    High school? College? What boundaries have you jointly agreed to? Personally I don’t think people have the life experience to make a permanent life partnership decision until mid twenties. Sounds like expectation for someone not ready to meet them.

  6. LincolnHawkHauling Avatar

    Could use some more details on what exactly is going on, OP

  7. Aggressive_Ad_8951 Avatar

    My guy, save yourself from the pains this relationship will deliver if you continue in this cycle. Take a huge step away from this toxicity and gently inform her that whilst you appreciate that she may feel she is keeping her word, the continued feedback that proves otherwise, is not something that fills you with positivity and trust. You don’t need to change her or expect her to change but you need to find someone how will not put you or friends & brother in this position.

  8. hothoneys Avatar

    Maybe she just values friendships, check if she’s still invested.

  9. Too_Nice_I_Guess Avatar

    Is this her last year in HS or College? If it’s HS and she’s doing this what’s gonna happen in college? She’s getting advise from her high body count friends and TikTok how do you think her life is gonna go? Count your blessings and send her on her way. You’re young and have the rest of your life. If she lying now (and she is) wait til you see her follow up lies. Be great!

  10. Autistic-Good9129 Avatar

    Gotta know who your friends are in this situation man. Id trust my regulars a lot more than the ones who have just stepped on in the door.

  11. doubleup___ Avatar

    Let her know you don’t like how she’s moving, if she doesn’t stop, leave her and let her be happy elsewhere… this is obviously apart of her character, ain’t really much you can do to change it, but you can change how you deal with her.

  12. PagingDoctorShitpost Avatar

    I don’t understand, is she not allowed to hang out with other men? Perhaps you should lock her in a room until she understands your jealousy comes before her being allowed to to have agency. I would lie to you too, I don’t want to see the inside of that room again.

  13. songwrtr Avatar

    It’s one thing if one person says something but when it becomes a chorus of people telling you that there is something fishy perhaps you should believe it. Where there is smoke there is fire. Sounds like she may have a fire down below.