please help (23f). i’ve been unintentionally starving myself due to my fear of food, fear of weight gain, and just being disgusted by the smells of food. i went from 188 to 153 in about a month. i’m scared. so scared. i’m weak and shaky. i’m irritable. im afraid of having to go back to another eating disorder facility. i can’t get any sleep. this is affecting my job.
tell me, do i just go to the hospital ER? what do i even say?
lost 39 pounds in a month
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> im afraid of having to go back to another eating disorder facility
Well, it’s clear you HAVE an eating disorder, and you likely know what to do about it. In the immediate term, you should likely go to an ER for some IV nutrition, in the longer term, you need whatever therapy/program has helped in the past.
Just go to Golden Corall and eat.
You can do it, just focus on yourself and you goal and nothing is impossible specially if you already did a great job keep going !! 🙌
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it sounds like u rly do need some type of psychological help that i dont think an er may necessarily be able to offer. try to find safe foods to eat at the very least so u don’t quite literally pass away tho 😭. i get it tho its hard ive been there sm times
You go to the ER. You tell them you have lost 35 pounds in around a month. You have a history of eating disorder and you need help.
Please, get help. I know you don’t want to be put in another facility for treatment, but that’s exactly where you need to be. Anorexia is an extremely dangerous disease, & left untreated, it is fatal. I have suffered with this disease, & it took almost dying to get me the right help. It’s a still a struggle, but, now, I have more good days than bad. So, I am pleading with you, get help, & get it now.
Honey that’s a massive amount to have lost. I need you to go to the ER and be looked after please. Immediately you know what could happen next xx please go
So I lost 25lbs once in idk maybe two months because of stomach cramping so I’m not in the same boat as you but I do know how long it took me to realize I felt like trash because I was starving myself on accident. It sucks and putting the weight back on sucks too so hugs.
When I couldn’t eat I had lots of rice and baked chicken with salt and pepper and forager probiotic shakes. Chicken doesn’t smell too much (to me) and rice is good for soaking up space in your tummy while also getting some good calories. For extra protein I found these prepacked 90s microwave rice/quinoa pouches that were bland and easy to make. Forager shakes are creamy and yummy and easy on the tummy because they’re cashew milk but also a good amount of calories it’s easy to drink up and eat more.
I know people will often work with a nutritionist and a therapist because it’s not only the mental fear of food but also literally calibrating back into what is a healthy serving size because that’s like legitimately difficult when you change weight and live in the capitalist hellscape we live in and are probably changing your activities to align with your new energy levels. Like there’s no shame in getting experienced help with that. It’s a whole field of study for a reason!!
Also, for therapy, I have different difficulties than you but I highly recommend cognitive behavioral therapy based methods for anything anxiety related. For day to day help too, there’s a really nice free app called simple cbt that helps guide you through understanding thought distortion and reflecting and rebalancing your thinking. You can write the same thoughts over and over or even write them once n then refer back to them since it keeps a log! It’s been really helpful to me in addition to just keeping a list of all the thought distortions handy on my phone to remind myself when my thoughts aren’t accurate.
You’re doing great tho!!! Keep caring for your body! It loves you so so much and I know you love it too.