So i (21F) have come out of a teenage long depression that had me aroace to discover i am purely aro. I have since slowly begun to get curious about sex. My friend “Henry” (24M) who i met a couple years ago has felt more and more like an option this past year. Henry is the kind of guy who has always had more girl friends than guy friends. He has a flirty personality and uses a lot of physical touch. The thing is, i am autistic and usually when people touch me i just wait for them to stop. But, for some reason, I like it when he touches me. All This coincides with the fact that he has stated many times he is looking for something casual. I want to ask him if he would like to get a fwb thing going. I dont know if i can give him what he would give me in that scenario but i really want to at least broach the idea. If anything i am looking for courage. This guy is first and foremost my friend. He is the DM in a really cool campaign we are playing and we have a bg3 playthrough going. I really dont want to ruin that
How do i ask my friend if he wants a fwb
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If you want to keep the friendship, I wouldn’t. Because typically when these things end, it also ends the friendship. Some due to immaturity, other due to new relationships forming and once the new significant other finds out you’ve had sex with one of your friends, they no longer want you around that friend.
I want to say just straight up ask but in a way that could ruin the friendship. If you do ask you need to be prepared for that. You don’t know until you ask.
Ask him first about his seriousness for something casual, such as “hey, I was just wondering about something you said before, about how you were looking for something casual.” Depending on the answer, you could then follow that up with “well, I myself am also curious about something casual, and if you are open to it, I was wondering if you would be comfortable in exploring such with me, specifically physically.”
I have found that being honest and to the point can save an individual from embarrassment. If the answer is no, then thats okay, then you know.