For context me and my best friend since kindergarten wanted to hang out with some other people without Amy(the girl that I’m fighting with rn)
For some more context we hung out with her before but it always ends up in a fight our personalitys are very different from eachothers because she’s very sensitive and we say “rude” as jokes and not ment to be taken seriously , my friend Amelia always has to calm down the fights because they get very personal , so basically we explained on why we don’t think it’s a good idea for her to hang out with us because it always ends up into a fight or somebody getting really upset and then she end up mentioning things from the past which we are already very sorry for plus she never cares about our problems the way we do care for hers and it makes us lowkey upset.
We call her telling her it’s best if she didn’t come since to be fair we never said she was invited she just assumed cause she was calling with us while we talked about it which I do get was lowkey not fair on her but it was quicker and easier that way.
At this has been posted she has blocked me and still is really mad.
Any tips to make her less mad would be very appreciated đź‘Ť
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For context me and my best friend since kindergarten wanted to hang out with some other people without Amy(the girl that I’m fighting with rn)
For some more context we hung out with her before but it always ends up in a fight our personalitys are very different from eachothers because she’s very sensitive and we say “rude” as jokes and not ment to be taken seriously , my friend Amelia always has to calm down the fights because they get very personal , so basically we explained on why we don’t think it’s a good idea for her to hang out with us because it always ends up into a fight or somebody getting really upset and then she end up mentioning things from the past which we are already very sorry for plus she never cares about our problems the way we do care for hers and it makes us lowkey upset.
We call her telling her it’s best if she didn’t come since to be fair we never said she was invited she just assumed cause she was calling with us while we talked about it which I do get was lowkey not fair on her but it was quicker and easier that way.
At this has been posted she has blocked me and still is really mad.
Any tips to make her less mad would be very appreciated đź‘Ť
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Why do you refer to this person as a “friend” if you don’t like her or spending time with her?
YTA for talking about and making plans in front of her when she wasn’t invited
NTA- but the way it was handled could’ve been more considerate.
you honestly could’ve handled the situation a lot better, but im gonna make a guess and say that you’re pretty young so you’ll learn over time. honestly at this point you might wanna consider creating some space between you and her so both of you could gain some perspective and reflect rather than a temporary fix to what i believe is a deeper issue
Maybe it came off kinda harsh, but like it’s just a movie not a wedding invite. That’s on her if she assumed just cause she overheard it, you didn’t even plan with her and blocking you?? Over this??! Don’t waste your energy