Location: England
I’ve been in a relationship for 4 years and 6 months ago I sold my house and moved into my boyfriends house as he was financially struggling and it made sense for us to live together. He promised that he would put me on the house somehow and we would sort it through Solicitors so I gave him the money because he was about to lose his car. He’s now refusing to do it and has become very violent and controlling. I want to leave him but I don’t know how or even if I can get my money back off him.
He has a 30 grand car paid off now and he has 100 grand equity in his house. No savings and barely makes enough to cover his bills.
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RUNNNNNNNNNNNNN
Leave his Ass and be CAREFUL!! Go talk to an Attorney ASAP to see what your options are but play dumb as if you are letting it slide if you do stay in the house.
NAL but I don’t think there is a way to recoup your money from a gift
Get yourself some place safe. Then speak to a lawyer.
Also check out r/legaladviceuk.
Step 1 would be to make arrangements to move out and remove yourself from that situation.
Unfortunately if you both don’t have a binding agreement where he has to pay back the money or give you equity in the house, recovering the money will be incredibly difficult/impossible. You essentially gifted the money at that point.
I wish you all the best. I’ve seen it many times where people have gave up their own house to move in with a toxic partner. It usually doesn’t end well.
Do you have any documentation (even emails or texts) that refer to this money as a loan or contains promise from him to pay you back?
I think you need to hire a lawyer for this. Perhaps you could get a lien out on his house.
You gave him 54k??? That was a stupid move. Not sure if you can get it back tbh. Did you sign any doc when lending him? Verbal agreement ain’t do shit.