Throw away account because if anyone finds me out I am in deep trouble.
I was unfortunately abused and I just found out I am pregnant now. I am very scared and heartbroken because I dont want to carry a kid right now, let alone one made with abuse. We have already filed reports and done a kit.
My parents are heavy christians and do not believe in abortion. I don’t want this child. I’m really stuck here. I don’t have a job, or a license, and my parents will make me keep it. Please help 🙁
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I think I should give more information. I live in a state where abortion is illegal. I really do not want to keep the child. I live in a very traditional part of town where people dont believe in abortion. I will be basically shunned regardless of my decision. I am so devastated. I don’t know my options. Some say adoption but I dont want to put my body through the stress and i am very scared.
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If you live in a state where it is legal, get an abortion. THEN report the abuse.
none of this is your fault. youre not broken you’re not alone and this doesn’t define you. You are so much more than what happened to you.
Have you contacted the police? Surely there’s an exception for abortions from rape no?
Please reach out to someone you can trust.
Call.The.Police
I’m sorry you’re going through this please find a trusted adult or support who can help you safely. You’re not alone
See if you can contact the local ACLU in your state, they’ve been known to help with advocacy and legal issues. They at least should be able to provide better resources if they cant help with your particular situation.
(To be clear, I’m pro choice, this comment is just based on your post sounding like abortion isn’t an option in your current circumstances)
First, I’m so sorry this happened to you. It’s not your fault.
Do you have another trusted adult in your life you can talk to? An aunt? School counselor?
You have to tell your parents soon so that you can get medical care. I hope they’re willing to consider adoption as an option- you’re just a kid yourself.
Are you 100% sure you’re pregnant? You took more than one test and they were clear positives?
Try to talk to your parents, tell them that you’re scared and that you can’t take care of a child who came from someone who abused you. Ask them if they would be willing to raise the baby later, or if maybe one of your relatives would…?
This makes my blood boil. My heart breaks for you.
If everything that follows is absolutely true.
Then you have little choices.
It’s looking like you’re gonna have to have the baby . That is demoralizing.
First you must grieve this, because here afterwards is probably very adulty.
If everything follows and there is no option for a legal and safe abortion. The state knows , and your parents will probably tell on you and you may get a conviction.
So first and formost .
You need to seek a therapist.
Away from your parents .
You’re going to have to grieve and consume all that has happened and all that will happen or it will get worse.
Now
Advice here after is if you have come to terms with this.
I recommend two options.
You put the baby up for adoption or your parents take care of the baby.
It’s important that you separate the baby from the incident , as impossible as that sounds.
Get your diploma , and you may want to stop talking to your parents .
They may say untrue things.
You just have to move on.
You may change your mind about the baby later, but absolutely don’t talk to your parents after you move on forward from this.
You may have to swallow some pride until you’re an adult and some deep trauma.
I’m sorry this happened to you.
Grieve, consume , breath, and therapy .
Then plan. Plan well.
None of this is your fault, and you deserve safety, support, and compassion. You do have options, even in states with abortion restrictions.I’m so sorry you’re going through this
If you end up keeping the pregnancy, adoption is uour best option. Also, do not tell your abuser that you are pregnant.
Hey 👋 it sounds like the best advice you could get from this subreddit is from a woman. I imagine that literally 100% of the girls commenting on here would be more than happy for you to DM them. If you see a comment that sounds supportive, you should message them directly. I’m sorry for what you’re going through
Everybody on here is so fast to jump straight to abortions. Don’t let one tragedy create another, murder isnt the answer. There are people who want to adopt children and your parents will love you either way, they’re your parents and they will understand your situation.
https://www.ineedana.com
💔🙏 Adoption is an option
People posting to keeo the baby or your parents taking care of it are horrible by the way, the trauma of having baby of rapist is really nightmare and being only 15 even worse.
Go to doctor by yourself and make sure the doctor is empathetic, a woman would be better, then tell her situation and maybe she helps you, if you are sure any doctor wouldn’t do that, do you have any trust adult that would help you find the abortion pills?
Can you travel somewhere that is legal?
Check out r/auntienetwork they may have some resources for you
Hey sis, real talk – this is a tuff spot you’re in, no one should have to deal with this 💔 But, you gotta remember this is YOUR life, YOUR body. IMHO, screw what any1 else thinks, u gotta look out 4 yourself first. Maybe contact orgs that help w/ this kind of stuff, like Planned Parenthood or something? Sure, it’s scary, and it’s hard, but you’re stronger than u think, u got this 💪 Reach out 2 trusted friends, teachers, anyone who can support u. And don’t ever feel guilty 4 making the best choice 4 u. Sending u strength n love! ❤️🙏
Sending you love! Hoping you can find adults who want to support you in whatever you decide!!! I’m so very sorry you’re going through this nightmare. 💕💕💕💕
Im very pro choice, and as a child in this awful circumstance there should be flexibility. The fact that abortion is illegal in your state in the first place is wild as it takes away women’s rights to have control over their own body.
Now, your parents. I’m guessing you haven’t told them and you’re predicting their response. If you tell them, you may want to ask them a very direct question about what is more important to them; a baby born from abuse to a mother that is unprepared and heartbroken, or the future of their child – prospects, marriage (as Christian), health and happiness?
Why would your parents have you in their life only to watch you suffer. Religion or morality.
I really hope that you’re able to talk to someone that will provide unbiased guidance and support to you. As suggested in other comments – a school teacher, local authority (police), an aunt? You have your life ahead of you and you’re about to learn a hell of a lot about what restraint, backward legislation and lack of freedom can do to a community. You’re stronger than you know, and you will make a choice either way, and it is not wrong either way, as long as it is YOUR choice.
/r/auntienetwork crosspost this there. They’re always willing to go the extra mile to connect people with resources, especially minors who are pregnant.
I am sending you all of my love while you navigate this. 💖 This is not your fault and I hope that you are able to get support.
Op, there are tons of crisis lines, funding, and self-manageable abortion resources if you are in the US.
The self manageable resources will not work if you are over a certain gestation; i.e over 9-12 weeks since your last period. The later end of that time it is sometimes less effective but still can be used; you should be diligent in following up with another pregnancy test(s) 3-4 weeks after you use the pill either way to make sure it was successful. you will have to travel somewhere parental consent is not needed or to a state where it can be waived by a judge or doctor if you are over that gestation.
https://www.ineedana.com/blog/a-teen-s-guide-to-accessing-abortion
If you are outside the US, please verify (you can dm me if you want to keep it private but more people who see it from your region may be able to help find things i cannot) and i can find other resources for you. Before you open this link please be sure your internet activity on the device is not accessed easily- regardless please use a private or incognito browser and delete your browser history after you compile the information you need somewhere safe. If you cannot have pills mailed to you or someone you trust, there is a program for places that they can be sent and then picked up.
I am so sorry you’re going through this 💗
Any friends or family that could take you somewhere? Your parents shouldn’t force you to ruin your life
Adopt, since abortion is illegal there