So yesterday, we were out on a yacht me, my mom, some of her friends, and a few other guests. We’d anchored somewhere calm in the sea, i swim for a while, and everyone was just relaxing, I was inside the cabin, just chilling using my phone and glance out through the window and then I saw
My mom climbs back up from the water, walks over casually, and takes off her bikini top right in front of her friends. Like, straight up topless, not trying to cover or anything. She poured herself some juice, joined the group, and just kept talking like nothing happened. I was just lying there like… okay, what did I just witness? Thing is, my mom isn’t a nudist or anything. I’ve never seen her do that before not even on vacations. She’s pretty normal, I wasn’t offended, more just caught off guard. I didn’t know people did that so casually?
There were a couple of guys there too part of her friend group, maybe in their 40s or 50s and a few of them were clearly staring at her chest. I couldn’t hear every word, but I swear I caught one of them joking about it, and my mom laughed along with it. I don’t know if she didn’t care or didn’t notice what they were actually saying… but it felt wrong. Like they were lowkey objectifying her, and she was just… laughing with them.
So… is that a thing? Like among friends who is married and among mix of male and female friends?
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I think it is. It depends on the friend group, I guess. But topless sunbathing is fairly common.
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Wild but not scandalous moms can surprise you when the sea breeze hits just right. Let it be a moment of shock not judgment some circles treat topless sunbathing like sipping wine in the sun normal and effortless.
Can I ask the geographical location? It’s very common in some places. Nothing wrong with it regardless. IMO.
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It’s not un-normal. Depends on the friends but I’m from Germany, I wouldn’t mind. But it’s a matter of “read the room” I guess…
It’s quite common but probably a bit unusual if she’s the only one in the party doing it.
My parents would sometimes be naked or topless at the beach. Sunbathing topless was not the norm but also not so weird that I paid it much mind. Even once I was old enough to be interested in boobs it didn’t really trigger any concerns.
My dad would say “if you want women to be topless around you then you have to behave like they aren’t topless” and I guess I extended that courtesy to all women
Are you American or European?
Are you European?
No it’s not normal unless you’re french. Or otherwise European. If you’ve never seen her do this before… you probably already know it’s not normal.
Is your Mom looking for new friends?
Asking for a friend.
Gen X here. I had a friend who had a cabin up North with a large friend group. My wife and I would find ourselves enjoying a completely nude sauna with a skinny dip in the lake afterwards with complete, total strangers. It was no big deal at all.
It’s just skin. A lot of this could probably be answered by you revealing how old you are.
Do you also get weird when your dad takes his shirt off? When you see mothers breastfeeding?
Your mother sounds relaxed and awesome, and she clearly has friends that she is comfortable with, and a yacht so that’s mega bucks $$
It’s not uncommon at all but this is something that you never experienced your mom do is jaw dropping to you. I would just talk to your mom about it and let her know that caught you off guard. I don’t know your age but if your older your hanging with your mom and friends then I would ask for a heads up cause I don’t want to see anyone naked sorry not sorry lol and if your not of age then a convo is still needed cause you didn’t feel comfortable about it.
Never to late to breastfeed
Ngl, they’re probably swingers and you just never knew.
I’m in my 50’s and this NEVER happened to me.
I gotta get a new friend group
Yes, depending on the situation it is normal. She probably felt comfortable with and trusted them. Also knew there wouldn’t be any strangers around.
Sometimes parents are people and do people things.
Very European. Also, very humanist. All women should have the freedom of choice to decide without people screaming about indecency and sex.
Are you Caucasian? If so, then it’s normal lol I have found that Caucasian people tend to be very FREE spirited.
You may have been on a swingers cruise…that or mom was wanting to “play”….🤷
You are European, and in most of Europe (and parts of South America) this is fairly standard.
Not so much in the United States.
Depends on the folks. I’m constantly rolling my eyes at the “I just caught a glimpse of a family member nude and now we’re all traumatized!” or “My wife showed my friend her bra so we’re divorcing!” Puritan-style posts on Reddit, but I think especially younger Americans now are often very easily shocked by a little skin. My family and circle of friends saw each other nude countless times, and wouldn’t blink at it today.
Mama needs some fun too
In Europe pretty casual
How did you end up on a swinger cruise with your mom?
This doesn’t seem that crazy around people she knows well. You are on a yacht anchored at sea, so this is pretty private. Once you get to a certain age, boobs are just boobs. Guys have them, dogs have them, all mammals have them. Your mom has grown up, had kids, etc. Breasts don’t have to be sexualized, and you start to realize that as you get older. It would be weird for a young adult to see and contemplate though. As you get older, it might start to seem like much less of a big deal.
Normal. Women change in front of each other. Vegas’s Caesars Palace has a pool that allows that too, so I’ve been to a friends bachelorette/30th bday party where it was optional. I did not partake, but other women can do whatever they want with their bodies. You need to learn this asap, and worry about yourself only.
Your mom sounds awesome!
Ur mom is going to be invited back… she gets the assignment…
Video or it didn’t happen
Mention it to dad while mom’s around and you’ll get the answer
How did everyone else react? If you were the only one clearly uncomfortable, then I would bet they are all familiar…
Depends on the culture.
In order to properly answer your question, we need to see a pic of said Mom.
I think you’ve already decided you find it weird, you’re just gonna be arguing endlessly with everyone else. Who don’t find it weird.
How old is your mom? If this is not normal, did you confront her? Could it be a sign of early dementia?
Maybe they are into swinging.
Thing is, my mom isn’t a nudist or anything
Yes, she is
her body her choice
A couple people asked how old you were and you haven’t answered yet. How old are you?
It’s almost like people can make choices about how they want to live their lives, and what’s acceptable in their own friend groups. Contemplate the term acceptance and your own opportunities to exercise it.
How much difference is there between a really sexy bikini top and no top? Visit Europe, it’s normal there.
And if she was that casual about it, it is a usual thing for her. May have forgotten you were in there, or something, but you will probly by seeing another side to your mom in the future.
Other cultures are far less uptight about nudity and we should be too. It sounds like your mom in throughout her life might have been an all over tan person and her longtime friends knew it. Perhaps the guys objectifying were not people who knew her previously? I say all this because yo describe her doing it as if it was second nature. Cheered to your mom. We should all care a little less about what people think about our bodies — except those two guys, they should grow up.
The quality of these responses is absolute dog-water. Yall are more concerned with trying to see some breasts. OP, “normal” is subjective. If your mom never takes her top off in public, would never do this with your dad around, and made it a point to tell you specifically people or women shouldn’t do that, then it is not “normal” id ask your dad “hey does mom usually take her top off in public.” And see what he says about it, if you feel she wasn’t respecting the boundaries of their relationship. If it just made you uncomfortable, talk to mom about it and ask her “if dad was here would you do that.” It could be totally harmless or it could be something more. Communication solves most problems.
Look, it’s not as uncommon for some people in some places to do that.
I once went running around a guy friends front yard butt naked on a dare. It was fine.
Also humans are sexual creatures and you know when you do that some people are going to look and comment. It doesn’t mean that person can’t see you as a whole they just also like boobies. She knows just doesn’t care and maybe even enjoyed some of the comments but also knows her friends better then you do and how they treat her overall. Let her do her thing.
It’s not bad if your dad is aware and doesn’t care. What is bad is the men there casually objectifying her and she liking it. I’d be having doubts if dad is aware of these friends saying those things.
My mom used to do that all the time. No one cared, I didn’t even react
This is one reason guys pour so much money into watercraft…
If my mother went topless in front of me or men who aren’t my Dad, we would be having a very public argument.
You’ve had multiple people tell you it’s not weird. My mother sunbathes topless. Your mother was on a yacht in Spain and was obviously comfortable. Yet on pretty much every comment you’ve insisted it was weird. So why ask the question?
Men can be topless why not women?
It’s legal for a woman to be topless in Ontario.
Take it as a teaching moment with your mom. Talk over your feelings, particularly your discomfort about the objectification you felt you observed. She may have a perspective that you don’t, and you might grow from it. Ive been in a similar situation, and one thing I learned is to be careful about thinking you’re observing objectification. Not wanting to sound too casual about it, but when boobs pop put, people do stare. Men AND women. There’s something a little primal about it – wired into our brains. It wears off after a while, and then you don’t notice it any more than topless men. The real problem is with certain people (and by that I mean the more immature/inebriated class of males) taking it as permission to be more advanced with the lechery. Just because mother nature’s coconuts are out does NOT mean you can touch/fondle/grab. Lots of women absolutely love feeling the sun and air on their chest. Its a wonderful, and non-sexual, freedom that isn’t always afforded is most social situations.
Question, serious question. Does your mom have good boobs, if so God bless her!
We’re going to need a pic of your mom to provide proper advice. You know, for science
If it made you uncomfortable I would talk to her privately, let her know you saw and how it made you feel. It doesn’t have to be a big deal, but maybe it’s something she can do when you’re not around? Which, I think she thought was the case in this situation.
She’s your mom, talk to her. It may just make you feel better.
Yup, rock what you got!
It’s kind of nice that you saw your mom being an actual person – not being strictly in her role as “mom”. Lots of kids don’t ever get to see the person behind the role.
Lots of people do this. Why don’t you ask your mom about it?
Are you European? If so nbd
Describe your mom’s boobs please… for context.
Do you got any pics of your mom?
Can we take a moment to remember that women’s breasts are NOT sexual organs, but in fact there to FEED A CHILD. And if the USA hadn’t sexualized them, this wouldn’t even be a conversation. I mean, Europe seems to be doing just fine with their nudes beaches and saunas.
Men can walk around topless in mixed company. Why can’t women?
Best advice is what others have said. Mention it to your dad in front of your mom and you’ll know whether its normal behavior or not.
Is your mom European? I know it’s pretty common in Europe. I was shocked when I was at a resort in Majorca that there were many topless women and girls
The most abnormal part of this story is being on a yacht somewhere in the sea. Our lives are not the same therefore my advice is of no use nor concern to you lol
Have you tried idk, asking her instead of strangers on the internet about it?
you didnt say if you were male of female , awkward for sure sure, i would speak to her in private and say you dont want her to do that when you are around etc and ask why she did it
The current generations are much pruder than gen X
Naked bodies, even your mother, is normal. Relax
Ask your mom about it right in front of your dad, every detail. Leave nothing out. You’ll find out very quickly if it’s normal in your household
Your mom is a swinger and these are her friends… if she’s not a swinger they are just an open group. Hoe proclivities don’t die with age.