So I 24f broke up with my Ex boyfriend 25m a week ago. It’s been hard as I am struggling with depression and my job. My ex let’s call him Mike and my ex bestfriend let’s call her Holly.
Me and Mike met through a friend who hooked us up and immediately we hit it off. I saw a future with him evertime I saw him. I loved him and he loved me or so I thought. Now onto Holly 23f, we have been bestfriend friends since high-school and acted like sisters around each other and never thought that she would hurt me in the worst way possible.
Holly and Mike met one time at a party that I payed for both of them. They exchanged numbers and I never thought much of it until now. After that Mike became alot more cold around me and was always busy on his phone. I became suspicious and thought that I should search through his phone but that would be an invasion of privacy.
Now onto the part I found out. I was invited to a girls night out with my mom, it was only me, my mom and my 2 sisters. We went to a restaurant and that’s when I saw that I forgot my wallet so I went home to get it. When I got home I found Holly’s ugly car on my drive way and that’s when i clicked the dots. I sneaked into the house and that were I saw them doing it on my brand new couch. Mike saw me but I guess Holly’s stale wig was in the was to see me
Too make a long story short I chased the out, threw Mikes clothes and blocked them. His family think I should give him a second chance but I won’t.
So am I The Asshole
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NTA. Forgiveness is a gift that you choose to grant, or not, after a person has apologized. You are not a bad person if you choose not to forgive especially painful acts.
There are some people who bleat about forgiveness being “for you” and not the offender, but I personally think thst’s nonsense. If they want forgiveness, then apologize to you and see if you are so inclined.
OF COURSE his family wants you to do this, so they can feel good about themselves again. Tell them to leave you alone.
NTA. They both betrayed you. Neither one has a place in your life. Forgive or not at your leisure but that doesn’t mean ever seeing either of them again.
NTA. They are both dead to you. Figuratively speaking.
you gave her sisterhood and she gave you betrayal. she burned your trust in the place you called home. forgiveness is not owed, it’s earned. and she never even said sorry.
👏👏👏Glad to see you decisively kicked them out. Please block them and do not give any chance to your ex, I don’t know what his family is thinking. If he is cheated , they won’t be generous to forgive. And your friend is a total AH.
NTA. Tell his family to fuck off and block all of them.
Forgiveness is not owed to anyone.
Your ex-bsf and ex-boyfriend betrayed you in the worst way.
Throw all of his stuff out. Sell the couch and bed and move.
Ghost them all.
I’m glad you found out sooner rather than later
What a silly yet not so silly question.. of course you are NTA.. your friend probably doesn’t know it yet but she did you a huge favor.. it opened your eyes about what type of boyfriend and best friend you had at the same time.. I was exactly in your shoes 5 years ago and I also kicked both pieces of trash to the curb like they both belong.. and they both still try to reach out to me.. NAH.. I’m good.. I’m happy in my quiet boring (yet oh so peaceful) life.. and they’re still miserable in theirs.. the best revenge for me was to peacefully and quietly (and let’s not forget happily) move on.. of course when it happened I wanted to destroy their lives like I felt they destroyed mine but I controlled my reactions by reacting less.. best choice I ever made..
NTA. Please get tested. I’d tell all of your friends so they know not to trust either of them. I’m sorry they did that OP. Block them and enjoy your peace
NTA
Who cares what his family thinks, he’s a cheating pos and Holly is scum. Neither deserve you in their life and make sure they’re blocked on everything. There is no forgiveness for cheaters and your ex bbf can live with losing her best friend over a dick. Karma will bite her hard when Mike cheats on her next and then she’ll have nono e to cry to. They both deserve a life of misery
NTA
Don’t give either of them a second chance.
Once a cheater, always a cheater, move on and leave them both behind. He doesn’t respect you if he did. He wouldn’t have done it. As for the family, they probably know you’re the best he is likely to get, dump them as well. Best of luck, someone better is out there xx
NTA- both of them crossed the line of no return. You know their character and moral compass believe it will happen again.
NTA. I wouldn’t forgive either one of them. There are no second chances after cheating. They’ve shown you who they are, believe them.
Give him another chance says his family. Are they fucking kidding? lol As for Holly, she betrayed you too. Apparently you’re not really a friend to her. Drop her from your life too. Good riddance. And good luck to you. NTA.
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Not the AH. There are so many respectful guys out there. Tell his family they should have raised him better.
NTA should’ve done worse
NTA. Tell them that they owe you a new couch, too.
Not the AH. Mike the manwhore and Holly the hoe can keep each other. Continue to cut them both out of your life and don’t look back. The best revenge is moving on and living your best life. Someone deserving will come along when you least expect it. Hope you heal swiftly from this betrayal ❤️🩹
NTA, block his family, too. They need to be ashamed of the person they raised.
Did she tried to reach you?! Or him??
NTA- Mike’s family just doesn’t want to house him. That’s why they you to forgive him. They want you to house him and be your problem again.
You don’t have to forgive anyone! Let God do it, that’s his job.
No. Why do you care what his family thinks?
Does your family know something that you don’t know? Has he expressed remorse to them with promises of fidelity?
Even your family should see that this was certainly not the first time they have hooked up. And, still, they’re defending him?
Kick his a** to the curb and don’t look back.
And make sure you tell the world what you caught them doing. Get ahead of the narrative.
No