My girlfriend (24F) and I (24M) have been together for 2½ years. Overall our relationship has always been very good (we are very transparent and honest with eachother). But due to the stress of having a job full-time, going to school full-time, having a lot of pressure from my family, and dealing with fluctuations in my own mental health, overall health (T1D, Graves, ADHD).
As of recently, we haven’t been doing well, which has been quite stressful, as she have very high expectations for me (as I do for her), and I don’t want to give up so easily because I love her so much. But I have been feeling this urge to be single (not because I want to, but because due to everything going on, I feel like I’m no longer helping in the relationship).
I spoke to her about this, where her dad said that she would be farther in life if she was single (and then she said that it was no offense to me, which I kind of get). There are a lot of things that have been bothering me: not being able to please her when it came to constantly being there for her emotionally available, having to worry about what I say because she takes things very literally. These aren’t the reasons but some of the things that have been bothering me.
I told her that I have been feeling as if I shouldn’t be in a relationship anymore but my heart doesn’t want to give up on you. We have had issues but its been to a point where I feel like its inevitable, but I feel so pathetic that I can’t even handle all of these things and just try to make it work but Im just so tired all of the time that I’m unsure of if I can. I’ve been consistently speaking to my therapist, treating my ADHD, and T1D, and recently am on remission from Graves.
Am I an emotional wreck because I feel like I’m disrespecting her in the end because she never deserved this.
Please let me know what y’all think or if you have any questions.
TLDR: The stress from my full-time job, school, and health issues has been overwhelming, and it’s taking a toll on my 2½ year relationship. I love my girlfriend, but I’m so exhausted that I feel inadequate and think I should be single, even though I don’t want to break up. This feeling has been worsened by comments from her father that she’d be “farther in life” without me. I’m in therapy and managing my health, but I still feel pathetic and disrespectful for even considering a breakup.