M23 here, I was contacted by a friend of mine who is F23 last week. We havent talked in about 3 years and havent seen each other since she moved to Florida about 6 years ago, she contacted me with the intentions of having a casual chat between friends. I had no idea what limerence was until she told me last night. I would think about her all the time wondering how she was doing and how life is going but i never really had the balls to contact her. I didnt want to intrude on her life and her success. We hit it off, we have been talking every day since she originally messaged me. She said she was romantically interested in me and we started getting into slightly deeper conversation. Topics of Children and marriage came up, she is not for any of that as opposed to me. Im willing to compromise. She doesnt want to move away and although its super early i told her that if things got really serious that i would consider leaving Pennsylvania to pursue a future with her. She said i was in limerence and i really didnt know what else to say. She seemed a little worried when we ended our facetime call last night. I gave her a little bit, texted her and apologized for how i scared her. She said it was all good. Then this morning she replied to my good morning text with the fact she just wanted to casually talk to a friend from her past and that it went too far, shes uncomfortable and doesnt want to talk anymore. Then she blocked my phone number and she blocked me on facebook. Is this the end? Was i ignorant to the fact i was suffering from limerence and allowed my emotions to flow freely without any kind of regulation? Is this the end of my friendship with her? She is really kind and im going to give her space and get myself help before i try to contact her again. She really loved me as a friend (I think) it was never my intention to scare her away. Please help! Thanks,
Rainman
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