I (21F) was in a “relationship” with my college professor (36M) for 9 months. Don’t be like me. Don’t do it.

Throwaway account because I don’t want this on my main account. I originally posted in r/college but it got removed due to this being a new account.

I wanted to share this on Reddit because I really need to get this off my chest.

For background I’m 21, female, and professor is 36, male.

At the beginning of the year I switched classes because I couldn’t stand the previous one I was in. I ended up taking a class with the professor this post is about and started a “relationship” (if you even want to call it that) with him. At the start of the class I thought he was a tight ass, and I felt that he always had a problem with me in particular. He was amicable with other students but every time I came around, it’s like his demeanor shifted. I truly felt like he hated me!

Eventually as time went on it was revealed that he liked me and acted like this to push his feelings away as he didn’t want to cause any problems. Boy I wish he had kept pushing them away.

Fast forward to mid semester, professor and I are hooking up, I’m at his place every weekend, and we have an official unofficial relationship. Looking back, I realized he never officially asked me out. We were just “together”. But even now I don’t even know if we were. The relationship was very secret and I didn’t tell a single soul, not even my closest friend. I always felt that what we were doing was wrong, and it was best not to tell anyone. Plus, I felt that he could get in to trouble, and I didn’t want rumors to start considering he’s a pretty popular professor on campus.

Every thing was going fine and we even kept in contact over winter break. I’d still regularly go to his place, he even picked me up from the airport when winter break was ending. Everything was normal until it was not. One day second semester I was walking to class and this girl approached me and asked “Are you [insert my name]?” At first I was hesitant to respond, but I said yes because it was on campus and she didn’t seem like a random stranger. When I said yes, she walked away as if nothing happened.

Over the next couple of weeks strange things started happening at my dorm, and I felt like I was being followed. Somebody’s drink had been thrown at my dorm door, a bunch of cigarettes were left there, and the most disturbing of all: a dead mouse was at my door. On campus I always had this strange feeling somebody was watching me, and even off campus at the grocery store.

One night I was walking back to my dorm and out of nowhere I hear heavy footsteps coming towards me and before I can even register it, I get tackled to the ground by a girl. The girl who attacked me was the one who asked “Are you [insert my name]?” two months prior. The situation was pretty traumatizing as campus security got involved and I had to go to the hospital. She was held for one night before eventually going back (yes back) to the psych ward.

Turns out, this girl was a previous student of professor and she had a relationship with him too. Apparently she accidentally got pregnant and when he said they needed to break things off, she became obsessed with him and ended up having a mental breakdown when he got back with his ex-wife. She ruined their marriage by doing the same thing she did to me to her and his wife left him for being with a student (this was during her freshman year). She ended up being expelled and he got a restraining order against her. But I guess she never got over it and that’s why she attacked me.

If any of you out there are involved with your professors in any way beyond a professional or academic relationship, just stop it now. It’s not worth it.

TL;DR: I dated my college professor for 9 months and his ex student tried to k!ll me in a jealous rage