I’m 18 fucked my a levels, don’t have a job and don’t have anything going on in my life right now. The only thing I do do is go gym but even there I am not seeing substantial progress. I feel like I am lacking a sense of purpose and that’s causing me to just bedrot all day and doomscroll which reminds me of how miserably single I am and how ugly I am compared to the “standard” nowadays. I think what I really want to know is does it get better? Will I ever find someone and is my future in ruins now as I messed up the most important exam of my life. I hate this generation and how it’s a norm to have multiple bodies and talk to multiple girls and I just feel like I am so far behind in everything
How do I stop feeling like a failure every night and find something to do that will stop me yearning for a relationship when I have been single my whole life
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It’s okay to feel lost right now 18 is rough and full of pressure. Messing up one exam doesn’t ruin your future, I promise. You’ve got time to figure things out. Focus on small wins daily and keep showing up life has a way of opening up when you least expect it.
You’re not failure you’re just at the start. Missing up now doesn’t mean your future’s ruined focus on small wins daily. You’re not behind you’re just on your own path if gets better, but only if you keep going. Don’t give up
Do you have any previous job experience or volunteer experience?
Even asking this question puts you ahead. You’re at the start of the journey. Take a look around at older folks you admire (maybe some who didn’t do well on their a levels) and see if you can set out in new direction. Joining a hobby group is great too. Get some interaction on the calendar!
You sound down in the dumps and negative about life. Vicious circle because nobody wants to date or employ someone like that.
You’re 18 and have not fucked your life at all, just a bump in the road. And definitely not a failure just because Alevels weren’t your thing.
I would say if you’re doing nothing anyway you may as well volunteer your time. It would get you out and about. You could meet someone who knows someone who could employ you. You never know what it could lead to. Even just an increase in confidence would be a positive!
Apprenticeship routes are often really good too because the employer knows you’re starting from scratch so isn’t looking for experience.
Believe it or not all those perfect people you see when you’re doom scrolling are not the reality. People are attracted to a warm smile, confident person or someone they connect with due to things in common etc. You will find someone to be with when you are happier withing yourself. Loving and being loved feels amazing… but it starts with you first.
Good luck 🥰