what would you do?20m 19f

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i’m long distance for only a few more months and i’m driving down every weekend to see this girl i’m talking to, she thinks it’s all perfect when i’m there but when im not she does not want to feel like she is held back from sleeping with people. i obviously don’t like the idea of the girl im in love with sleeping with someone else while im still coming down and sleeping with her anyways. she says she hasn’t done anything but i don’t know how long that is going to last. she says she’s doing nothing wrong because she is single and im single she just can’t have me so she would do it with someone else. it’s hard i don’t know how i should feel or if i should just see it as a no strings attached thing and get over it.

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  2. Born-Mix1736 Avatar

    She sounds terrible

  3. Buddy_Von_Kaos Avatar

    Dude, just break up with her. Because it doesn’t seem like you’re her partner.

  4. waptislayer Avatar

    She most likely has already fucked on there people when you have been away

  5. RelumingRain Avatar

    Yeah it’s time to stop seeing her. You clearly want to be exclusive, she doesn’t, end it there.

  6. Legitimate_Seesaw352 Avatar

    Yup. What they said. All of them. Sorry bro. Pass and give it to the next one.

  7. EvanFreezy Avatar

    Go find someone who wants you like you’re the last person on earth