My boyfriend (M22) cheated on me (F19) and I need help.

I genuinely am extremely shooken up right now and just found out that my boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me and I have no idea what I am going to do.

A bit of backstory I got into an online relationship with my boyfriend (M22) about 2 years ago now, he was a shut-in living with his grandparents attic, no job no nothing. He was extremely sweet and loving to me and later moved out of his grandparents house (they lived in a very rural area in West Virginia where there were no jobs) and a little later moved to Pennsylvania where his uncle offered him a job at a car dealership. He worked there for a while and I was pretty much freshly 18 and was in college at the time but eventually got a job working at a Walmart. Mind you I was living in California. A couple months pass and we decide that we want to finally meet and maybe even him pick me up and move in together in Pennsylvania. He was also buying me things and being super nice to me and everything. He flew over from PA to CA and we met, this was about a 2 week vacation where he paid for a nice hotel, met my family and friends, paid for food, bought me nice stuff (including expensive shoes and a dress). Then after the vacation we flew back in first class to PA.

This is where it starts to go downhill. We go to his other grandparents (other side of the family) house and stay there. His grandparents were extremely nice but had 6 huskies and were living in a house with chewed flooring and walls and the house was a complete mess because no one was ever there to watch the huskies. Since I was freshly moved into PA with no job I was able to clean and take care of the huskies.

But there’s another thing that happened. His grandparents had COVID-19 as soon as we got home. Little did I know, I ended up getting COVID-19 and later after passing it getting a chronic disease known as POTS. (This will be very important later in the story).

He’s very nice to me still at this point but I am begging to leave his grandparents house because not only I have to care for 6 huskies but also a house that was not cleaned for months. And after searching and searching for an apartment more near his work and that was decently cheap. We move in.

After we move into this apartment (at the time I didn’t know what was wrong with me and had no idea about POTS) I also was getting extremely depressed. during the span of a couple months the house gets dirty, but I try my best to keep it clean and also almost always pack his lunches and make dinner with my undiagnosed POTS and depression. But I notice a shift in my Boyfriend. He starts getting meaner to me, I find out he spent almost 1k on porn. I then having no support system here give him a second chance.

Then he starts going out drinking at the bar. One time he comes home and I find that he’s texting repeatedly, since he is drunk I find that it’s a girl he met at the bar. He explains that she was the one who forced him to get an uber instead of taking the car (for some reason he always took the car to the bar even though I told him it wasn’t a good idea). He calls her the next day and she gives him a ride back to our car. Fine, I give him a pass since he explained himself and he was also intoxicated and told her he had a girlfriend.

THEN, yes AGAIN. I find he went out to the bar with CONDOMS in his pocket. Mind you we were having intimacy problems all during this period but I bought the condoms in hopes that maybe we could solve that. He plays it off like he didn’t know they were there and must’ve forgot about them. Still iffy but let him pass because I genuinely have no other options.

We end up having a talk. Because he has extreme communication issues. He finally tells me that he has too much on his plate which I understood at the time since he was working 12 hours shifts for these months. I end up to start looking for a job AFTER getting diagnosed with a chronic syndrome that makes me faint and where most people with this syndrome cannot work.

And here we are at the present. I’ve been applying to jobs left and right. And since 2 months ago have been going haywire on cleaning the whole apartment despite everything. And during this time I’ve been really wanting a cat (just keep this in mind). He starts taking nights to go work on a farm throwing bales. The couple nights he goes I’m fine it’s whatever he does this a lot. 3 days ago he got me a cat because I said if he keeps leaving me and staying the night then I need a cat to keep me company. He keeps going. Then I realize he is almost never moving on our shared location. I notice that the place he is at is a condo and not a “farm”. I end up texting him “Hey why are you at a condo btw?”. And then I get a pit in my stomach. I call his phone once, rings and no answer. Again, a guy picks up and I sigh out of relief. He asks “Who is this?” I say “I’m _ girlfriend?” I get handed over to a girl and she asks me to repeat what I just said, I do and she basically freaks out and starts telling me that he has been drinking at her house for the past couple nights but they haven’t done anything. And I ask “So what you are telling me he is cheating on me?” and at that point I’m shaking and about to throw up. Me and her talk about this for a bit and she asks what I want to do, I don’t know. We both decide she’s going to wake his drunk ass up and get him to either go home or talk to me over the phone.

I’m currently waiting for him to get up. I have no clue what to do at this point. I have no where to go, no money, a cat, and no support system. If I leave him, I have nothing. If I give him a fucking fifth chance he’s surely going to fuck me over again. Do I start a gofund me? Do I have to call my abusive parents? Do I leave him? Do I give him a second chance? I genuinely need help.