Last Friday i (M24) was at the bar with my GF [F21] and her friend + boyfriend. We have a relationship for 6 months now. We had a super good time however we ended up fighting hard over what she did.
So in short. It was a super crowded venue, we were dancing and having a good time. I noticed my girlfriend looking at a quite a good looking guy a few times like a couple feet away from us. I really dont care, looking is fine to me.
However at some point it got crowded and we had to move places. The guy also moved and we were basically crossing eachothers path. My GF (in front of me mind you) proceeded to touch his biceps to pass, she went straight to the biceps and kept holding them for a solid 10 seconds and also squeezing a little untill he fully passed her. She let go at the last moment. He was quite muscular as well.
There was no neccesity in all of this, as he crossed quite fast and she could easily move without touching anyone. The guy looked apologetic at me and didnt act on it and continued walking.
She even looked a few times later in the evening towards his direction as well.
I feel like its a red flag and we had a fight. Am i overreacting? In crowded places people touch alot but this seemed out of place.
TLDR: Girlfriend kept touching a random guy biceps too long for no reason and i got mad
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Sounds like she was giving him strong intention of her interest and wanted his validation or attention. And she did it all right in front of your face, imagine when you aren’t around. Yes you should be questioning your relationship, behavior like this points to signs of much deeper issues. She doesnt sound like a loyal kind of chick, sorry man.
A man will touch a women’s waist to pass by her even when it’s unnecessary to do so, so the fact that your girlfriend touched his arms to pass by him when it was completely unnecessary makes me laugh. Men literally do this to women all the time.
Men do it because they think it’s innocent and they can get away with it. “Oh I’m just trying to get by, it doesn’t mean anything!” Your girlfriend’s reasons were likely similar. I don’t think it’s going to work out with your girlfriend because she doesn’t have eyes for only you. She finds ways to justify her improper actions.
I would have broke up with her. Imagine what she does when your not there. She isn’t down for you like she should be. She’s basically keeping her options open and that would be a deal breaker for me.
Why are you continuing the relationship? I would leave the next second, I would tell her to apologize for leaving, but I’m extra. And that’s it.
Gigantic red flag. You’re both young, but she’s younger. She still has mistakes to make. Don’t let them happen while she’s with you. End it asap.