AITA Should I Protect My Little Sister From My Stepmom
I am 40F and my little sister is 23. She lives with my dad and stepmom and she was adopted when she was 3 years old. She already has her masters and has never been in trouble.
I found out in December 2024 that my stepmom was more than just over protective, but downright controlling. She had the passwords to all of my sisters emails including college and her cloud account.
Well yesterday it went to a whole other level when my sister took our niece 17 on a college tour. My stepmom called her 22 times in an hour saying it was taking too long. She didn’t want sister going to the mall after and was telling her not to reach off my niece for money. My little sister is a
behavioral therapist at a private school and should be making good money, but apparently doesn’t have access to it because my stepmom has been forcing her to hand over her pay checks. She also isn’t allowed to eat what she wants because she is getting “too big”. My little sister is 5’6 107 lbs. My sister can’t wear the clothing she wants our have close female friends. My little sister had a best friend, but my stepmom said it seemed like a lesbian relationship and made it so hard for my sister she stopped talking to her friend. I could keep going.
When my sister called me after the events yesterday I asked why she doesn’t talk to our dad. She said because she doesn’t want to stress our dad out and that my stepmom has been threatening to leave my dad if he doesn’t go with what she says. Our dad is 75 and is currently having health issues. My little sister wants to move out ( which she knows she will be leaving with nothing) but she doesn’t want to leave our dad.
I am freaked out and concerned and want to talk to my dad about everything, but I don’t want to make it harder for my dad or worse or worse for everyone involved. Would I be the asshole for taking to him to help my little sister out of this situation. I
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AITA Should I Protect My Little Sister From My Stepmom
I am 40F and my little sister is 23. She lives with my dad and stepmom and she was adopted when she was 3 years old. She already has her masters and has never been in trouble.
I found out in December 2024 that my stepmom was more than just over protective, but downright controlling. She had the passwords to all of my sisters emails including college and her cloud account.
Well yesterday it went to a whole other level when my sister took our niece 17 on a college tour. My stepmom called her 22 times in an hour saying it was taking too long. She didn’t want sister going to the mall after and was telling her not to reach off my niece for money. My little sister is a
behavioral therapist at a private school and should be making good money, but apparently doesn’t have access to it because my stepmom has been forcing her to hand over her pay checks. She also isn’t allowed to eat what she wants because she is getting “too big”. My little sister is 5’6 107 lbs. My sister can’t wear the clothing she wants our have close female friends. My little sister had a best friend, but my stepmom said it seemed like a lesbian relationship and made it so hard for my sister she stopped talking to her friend. I could keep going.
When my sister called me after the events yesterday I asked why she doesn’t talk to our dad. She said because she doesn’t want to stress our dad out and that my stepmom has been threatening to leave my dad if he doesn’t go with what she says. Our dad is 75 and is currently having health issues. My little sister wants to move out ( which she knows she will be leaving with nothing) but she doesn’t want to leave our dad.
I am freaked out and concerned and want to talk to my dad about everything, but I don’t want to make it harder for my dad or worse or worse for everyone involved. Would I be the asshole for taking to him to help my little sister out of this situation. I
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> I have already encouraged my little sister to move out and she has started to put that in motion. The more I have encouraged my little sister the more my step mom is noticing my involvement. My next step is to talk to my dad, but I know that will make it worse.
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NTA
Your sister is being abused. Grt her help.
YWNBTA to get your little sister out of this prison. Whatever it takes.
NTA
Your sister is 100% being abused. Talk to your dad and help her get out of there.