We have been in relationship for about 1.5 years. He is very committed and loyal to me but our communication styles are different.
So the thing is…. My boyfriend has a bit busy schedule so we only talk at night and that too after 11 pm and I have no problem with that but I look forward to long calls at night when we both have some free time. But he prefers short calls and often wants to end our conversations early so he can watch YouTube or listen to podcasts.
What frustrates me the most is that sometimes even during the day, he somehow finds time for these youtube but not for a quick message or even a minute to talk to me. When I bring this up, he says that it’s his time and that I’m trying to control him. He tells me he can do whatever he wants and that I should give him space.
I want to be clear: I don’t want to break up as I love him a lot. I just wish he would miss me a little or show more interest in talking to me. I want to find a way to make him realize that I’m not controlling…. I am just craving connection…
TL;DR
My boyfriend thinks I control him and don’t give him space and I think the reason why he thinks like that is very silly…. so what can I do to make him realise that I am not controlling him…
Any advice would really help…. Thanks in advance
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I dont consider it controlling. I think the word he’s looking for is “needy.”
Wanting to have a few hours’ long phone conversation at 11 pm after a long day sounds like my nightmare.