Me and my ex were together for two years and broke up a couple of months ago. For the past month he has been love bombing me and saying I am the love of his life. He has now said he feels no point in living without me and plans to kill himself if we don’t work out.
I have no clue what to do. I want to move on, but I feel I can’t when he is so mentally unstable. I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if he committed suicide over me.
It was a big decision to leave him in the first place, he was very emotionally immature and never made me a priority. I was absolutely miserable for the last 6 months of our relationship and I had finally had enough. I was so done by the time I walked away that I never considered getting back together an option.
He text me today saying he doesn’t feel like living anymore and he is sorry for everything. It sounded like a goodbye and I was completely traumatised. He ignored me after too. I sent an ambulance to his house and contacted his work in so much panic. He hadn’t actually done anything but I am so worried he will.
I feel so mentally drained and done with this situation. I want to be there for him but I’m struggling when he has treated me so badly in the past. I feel I am being manipulated back into a situation that wasn’t good for me.
What is the best way to approach this situation? I hate that he is so depressed and I could make all of that go away if I gave things another go.
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i went through the same thing with my abusive ex. he was doing for attention and to get me back. your ex is most likely doing the same thing. i understand how mentally draining this is. one night i woke up around 2 am to a voicemail. he left his “last goodbye” and led me to believe he killed himself and i didn’t go back to sleep that night, i stayed up panicking until he called me back in the morning after he woke up. he was perfectly fine. i was a stupid 16 year old and didn’t understand what he was doing but now i do. if you are seriously concerned about him inform his family of what he has been saying. its normal to be depressed after a break up but being suicidal isn’t. it also isn’t your job to make sure hes okay, thats up to his family. i wish you good luck girl.
This is a very serious form of abuse that many people face. Please do your best to cut contact with him. I know you still care about him but he is absolutely using it as a form of manipulation just as you suspect.