I (18F) have been with my boyfriend (18M) for about a year now. Neither of us has a car yet, so it’s harder for us to see each other, but this summer has felt especially hard. Every time we make plans, something seems to come up for him. When we do see each other, it’s usually just him coming over to my house, which I appreciate, but I miss actually going out and doing fun things together.
I’ve tried talking to him about how I’ve been feeling sad and distant because of this. But when I brought it up, he basically said I’m making it seem like things will always be like this and that I’m acting like our relationship is worse than it really is. He told me to just wait and be patient. I know he didn’t mean to hurt me, but I felt dismissed. Because of how upset I’ve been feeling, I’ve started acting a little distant and frustrated toward him, which I don’t like.
With school starting soon, I’m worried it’ll get even harder to see each other, and I don’t want to let these feelings keep building up. I care about him a lot and I don’t want this to ruin anything between us.
How can I handle feeling like this and communicate better without making him feel like I’m blaming him? Has anyone been through something like this? How did you work through it?
TL;DR:
18F and 18M boyfriend have barely hung out all summer because neither of us has a car and things keep coming up for him. I miss going out and doing things together, not just him coming over. I’ve tried bringing it up, but he told me to just be patient and that I’m making it seem like the relationship is worse than it is. I’ve started acting distant because I’m sad. How do I deal with this and communicate better without making him feel attacked?