I’m 20M she’s 18F, Situation with my girl, we not dating dating not officially but we are in a serious talking stage I see her almost everyday we were at Apple bees and I saw a tinder notification on her phone and I was like wow u still got tinder as a joke but kinda serious bc we met on tinder so I kinda asked her to delete it but even though I said this I had tinder in my phone and lied to her that I deleted it which she ended up seeing shortlly after, and she just has tinder and doesn’t talk to no one and I’m the same way, I don’t talk to any girls on there since I met her on tinder, and idk why tf I lied to her saying I deleted it and made her delete it even though I had it on my phone and I could’ve been honest bc she wouldn’t have cared. What’s wrong with me? We talked in my car after outside her house before i dropped her off bc I obviously made her upset and I felt like an illogical asshole, she was hurt and I feel fucking terrible. I ended up showing her my tinder stuff bc she wanted to see, I told her I genuinely don’t know what else I can do rn to show u that even though I lied to u about something I didn’t need to, that I’m not talking to any girls. So she saw my tinder and saw I hadn’t talked to any girls since I started going out with her. Which confused her even more bc why tf would I lie about something like that when I actually had nothing to hide. We talked and she eventually at the end did say she forgives me but she hopes that I don’t do stupid shit lies like that in the future which I promise to god I won’t, this was so fucking stupid and avoidable on my part. She gave me a hug at the end but she was still hurt and confused bc I know her well enough and she has every right to feel like that. I think part of this came from some insecurity I have about being exclusive and me trying to prove too much that I’m a good guy, which I know I am, I seriously just fucked up hard like a dumb fuck, but in pursuit of trying to over prove myself I ended up lying about something like this. And she said particularly that stuck with me that “if ur lying about stupid shit in our talking phase than idk wtf ur gonna do later” which is totally valid on her part. It’s 2;40 am should I say anything to her on text now? What should I say the next day, how should I phrase it? Please tell me advice im broken rn.
TL;DR: 20M, seeing 18F, not officially dating but in a serious talking stage — we met on Tinder and see each other almost every day. At Applebee’s I saw a Tinder notification on her phone and, half-joking but kinda serious, asked her to delete it. She did. But I lied and said I deleted mine too when I actually still had it — I wasn’t talking to anyone, just hadn’t deleted the app. She found out shortly after, got hurt, and we talked in my car. I owned up, she forgave me but told me not to lie like that again. I feel terrible and genuinely didn’t mean harm — I think it came from insecurity and trying to prove I’m a good guy too hard. She said, “If you’re lying about stupid shit now, what about later?” and she’s right. I know I fucked up. She gave me a hug but I know she’s still hurt. What should I text her now (it’s 2:40am) or the next day to show I’m serious and that I truly care? I don’t wanna lose this girl over something this dumb.
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Did you delete the tinder app from your phone….?