Is it normal that my (29M) boyfriend doesn’t go down on me (37F)?

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Wanna keep this short because its a bit embarrasing. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. We don’t live together but we spend weekends at his place. there is of course sexy time and he loves it when I go down on him. But he doesn’t go down on me. ever. He did. In the beginning of the relationship. but it just hasn’t happened again. And yes, I did ask him if there is a reason he doesn’t and he said, no. This weekend, we had amazing sex, but I didn’t finish. And when I asked him about that, he had an excuse. I don’t think there is anything wrong with me down there. but now I’m beginning to worry.

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  2. dontwantnoshrub Avatar

    Only real men eat.

  3. Kholo_Motseki Avatar

    try talking to him again and see what’s going on?. i had the same issue with my gf and when i talked to her she told me that it’s too Big and she can’t handle it

  4. david_ayee Avatar

    How unfortunate for you, I would suggest talking to him but make it very clear that you’re not trying to make him feel bad but to understand if he doesn’t like doing it or if there’s a reason he doesn’t want to do it for you when you do it for him, that’s basically all you can do.

    Personally I don’t find sexy time all that fun unless I can go down on my wife, it’s absolutely not fair if I finish and she doesn’t, you should get that same respect.

    Communicate.

  5. ruphoria_ Avatar

    Ask him to go down on you in the moment?

    Stop going down on him?

    Is he selfish in other aspects of your life / relationship, or just in bed? It’s not “amazing sex” if you didn’t finish. There’s nothing wrong with you, he just does not care about your pleasure.

  6. flstcjay Avatar

    Probably normal for him, definitely not in most relationships. Some guys just don’t like doing that.

  7. Effective-Mongoose57 Avatar

    If this is an issue for you, then tell him straight out. Maybe he doesn’t like it, which is fine, we don’t push people to do things they don’t want to around here. But likewise if this is a deal breaker, best to know now.