TL;DR We’ve been together for years. She wants us both to move to the US for her Master’s. I like my life here, but she wouldn’t go without me. Now she’s upset and avoiding me. I don’t want to lose her, but I also don’t want to live a life I didn’t choose. I don’t know what to do.
We have known each other since 9th grade, been close ever since, and things just kind of naturally fell into place. Our families are friends too, like we’ve kind of grown up around each other.
We both graduated, started working, and ended up at the same company. It’s been good. We see each other daily, never had any real issues.
But now she’s really pushing for both of us to go to US for a master’s degree.
Here’s the thing: I just don’t want to. I like my life here. I like being near family, having a stable job, living quietly. I’m not looking to leave all that behind right now.
She’s really upset about it. She’s been avoiding me, barely replies to texts. She even brought it up with my mom and her mom, trying to get them to convince me. And lately not even picking up calls, saying she’s busy studying.
And I get it. I know she loves me and just wants me by her side. I feel the same way about her. But our choices are different, and I’m stuck.
Part of me wonders if I should just say ‘Fine, I’ll come,’ and maybe she’ll change her mind or not want to go alone. But I also don’t want to fake something this big.
Just wondering, has anyone been through this? What do you do when you’re still in love, but the future you both want isn’t the same anymore?