Posting for a family member.
So I’ve been renting out a small room for $400 a month for about 1.5 years now.
There has already been a little bit of unfairness going on, as the room’s closet is full of the homeowner’s stuff, and the homeowner also keeps a dresser full of their things in this room, but this is all I can afford so I just deal with it.
Earlier this month the homeowner mentioned having family stay over, and asked if I could remove all of my things from the room, take it to my mother’s (who lives 10 minutes away), and stay with her for five days, so the visiting family members can stay in my rented room instead of having shell out money for a hotel.
They offered to cut $50 from this months rent if I agree to this.
To me, it seems really unfair to expect a renter to do this, but they seem to think it’s a totally reasonable thing to ask of me. My family members all think it’s incredibly rude. My mom is unwilling to agree to this, and even if she were, we don’t really get along and it would be uncomfortable to stay with her. The homeowner is now very upset over this.
AITAH for not leaving my rented room so the homeowner can let their family stay in it?
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NTA. That is ridiculous. How about $1000?
NTA, it’s not only unfair, it’s illegal. This might be better served in a legal sub
NTA. I hope you have a renter’s agreement. Legally you have all right to not vacate the room however you might need to start looking for a new place if they decide to be petty about this.
NTA
Tell them they can pay for a decent hotel for either you or the family who are visiting. Or you will rent the room to their family for $1,000 a week paid in advance.
Well, let’s see. $12.90 a night is what you pay for staying there, so, we start at about $64.50 for the five nights. And how about compensation for your time to be schlepping about? And how about paying for wherever you stay?
This is an entirely unreasonable request. It’s bad enough that they can’t even rent a room properly without all their stuff in it.
I hope you let them know you can’t stay with your mother, so if they want you out, they will have to put you up somewhere proper. At which point, they might as well do that for their family member.
Being in a stressful living situation like this is awful, I’m sorry.
NTA, of course.
That really sucks – he wants to inconvenience you for the better part of a week, and only offers you $50?!
I think since you’ve been putting up with him using it as his storeroom, he figures there’s no ask too big. He’s definitely TAH. Move as soon as you can.
Two months free rent and you’ll start considering it, settle for nothing less.
NTA, I mean, really? They want you to clear out for family?! Unbelievable.
NTA. It is in your lease that you have full time occupancy of the room for the duration of your stay. The landlord could not even be bothered to offer you the proportional rate for the discount, $100, much less an inconvenience fee.
If the room costs $10 per day, you’d only be paying $300 in rent.
It is fine to aks. It is not ok to make you. It is rude? Probably, but it’s ok to ask nevertheless.
I would tell them you can’t move out for 5 days at 10 bucks a day. Maybe for the whole month’s rent.
You do have a written contract, correct?
To upset homeowners: I’m sorry this isn’t working out like you want, but It’s not reasonable for you to treat me like a renter by expecting me to pay rent every month on time (please tell me you do!)–and they expect me to be willing to leave when it’s suits you. Either I’m a renter and this is my space or it’s not and I don’t owe you rent. This is no different than if I was renting an apartment–it’s mine for the duration of the lease. Not to mention: I pay you considerably more than 10 bucks a day. I’d move out if you pay for me to stay at a hotel. (If you are.)
Sorry to hear that you are presented with this delimma OP. I would start by exploring other rental arrangements and get myself out of this situation on a permanent basis.
Their request is unreasonable. Why don’t they go stay elsewhere so their family member can stay in their room?
I’d start looking for a different room to rent.
🤣 NTA
An absolutely ridiculous ask, and illegal to boot. Maybe mention the cost of a moving company’s two trips, including their packing and unpacking, your hotel and food costs, and then add the $100 or so amount that you pay per week. Please take a picture of their faces when you explain how their insultingly low $50 offer sucks.
YTA for allowing the owner to take advantage of you big time WHILE YOU’RE PAYING FOR IT!!!
Let the relatives stay but take pictures of everything in the room, remove all of your items and permanently move out. Find some place else to live which is something you should have done a long time ago.
An inexpensive motel for the time being is probably less expensive than the $400 a month you’re paying to ‘share’ space in a room.
NTA. This should be the counter offer.
$100 off rent
$50 to move every thing out
$The cost of a hotel for five days
$50 to move everything back in
NTA, and not for just $50. Where’d they come up with that math?
At a minimum …
$400 x 12 (months) = $4800
$4800 ÷ 365 (days) = $13.15 (per day)
5 days x $13.15 = $65.75
Plus you’re displaced from your normal living space.
You don’t want to stay with your mom, and she doesn’t want you to stay there. That means you’d have to find another place to stay or get a motel room for 5 days.
Why don’t the homeowners just pay for a motel room for their guests?
Tell ’em you’ll do it for two months free rent — and start looking for another place to live, because they’re going to be pissy from here on out.
NTA
NTA. Look up the cost of a five-night stay at a hotel in your area. That’s the price they need to offer to cut from your rent (I’m betting it will be more than your monthly payment). I hope you have a legal agreement, but you might need to start looking for a new living arrangement if they decide to get petty.
Absolutely NTA. Do not agree to this. I rent a room in my house to a young man and I would never dream of this. His room is his room. None of my belongings are in there other than the furniture I used to furnish it and I would never ask him to vacate to allow someone else to spend time in there. That is a fucking wild level of audacity.
You need to find a new room to rent. The fact that you do not have full use of the room is outrageous.