First post here on a throw away account.
I was visiting some friends on Friday (we had been friends since High School so about 15 years) and we went out for drinks. After we were going to eat, they decided they were going to eat Indian food. I have never eaten Indian before so I have no idea what anything is, so I tell them I am going to call it a night and will get something on my own way home. This started an argument about my being a “picky eater” and how I only eat “country foods” I admit I got a little defensive and argued back how I didn’t want to ruin their evening and they could go eat and we could catch up again another time. Well one friend got really mean about it and said how I have a “small town” mentality I never grew out of and that if I had traveled somewhere outside my “comfort zone” I would have better understanding of other people cultures and issues, and that because I don’t engage in these things I can appear uneducated and ignorant. Of course we all had been drinking but it was way more heated than it should have been and I got offended and my feelings hurt. At some level I know he was right and I am kind of small town, but on another I am upset about the anger of what I choose to and not to eat. I know picky eater can be horrible in social groups and I didn’t want to be an issue so I was going to bow out, what wrong with that?
Well now I am wondering if I want to even continue the friendship with someone who is so judgmental about what I do or eat. How can I continue this friendship with what was said and how I now feel judged. I mean really I am not sure if I would even like to go out with them at all anymore.
tl;dr I got into a fight with some friends about being a picky eater and choosing not to join them for dinner, things got ugly and now I am not sure I want to continue the friendship.
Comments
This topic is such a non-problematic one. Why are they so affected on your way of eating?
I totally understand how some people can be a pain in the ass about eating habits, but they could try to include you and move some points of the plan for you to be part of them- they just didn’t want you there, and I’m so sorry.
This is not something that should bring that kind of situation or emotional reaction- or it should NOT be something that makes you doubt about this friendship to begin with.