Yesterday afternoon my boyfriend [29M] of 10 months hanged up the phone and told me [25F] he’ll call the same evening. Now it’s 1 pm the next day and I haven’t heard from him yet.
I’m offended cause we’ve just been through a though time. Yesterday he apologised for not treating me the best recently, and right on the same day he didn’t keep his word on something so simple as giving me a call. I haven’t texted anything yet but I’m freaking out a bit
I’m starting to feel like I should reach out, but I’m annoyed cause I feel like I’m often the one to do that, should I?
I know it’s such a stupid question, but I’m really second guessing what’s the problem
Tldr: Is it worse to reach out out of exhaustion? or not reaching out of hope that he’ll show he actually cares without me always texting first?
For context, after he goes silent for a while, I would usually text him, getting legit a bit worried that something’s not okay. He’s just okay, so I’m a bit tired of reaching out out do worry just to find out he basically didn’t care enough to text me
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Honestly, your boyfriend sounds childish. I’d get bored of someone real quick if they behaved liked that
it would be a cold day in hell before I texted. He said he would call, then didn’t call. He will get around to it eventually, and will say “sorry I didn’t call the other night” and you’ll say “no big deal, I was pretty busy anyway.”
The only question is how intrusive you were all the time. Maybe he’s just one of those people who doesn’t like to talk on the phone or in text messages? But it’s still possible that he has other interests that are more attractive to him than you. And I’m not talking about cheating, I mean in general. For example, I have moments when I don’t really want to talk just because I’m in a bad mood. Talk to him about it frankly, maybe you’ll be able to find out the reason.