I think this is more cultural thing, but I know many people give in a seat to people with disabilities or pregnant women, but don’t feel obligated to do it for elder person. Do you act differently to 90 years one who can barely stay, and 60-70 years prayerful person or you give in every time or never?
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Absolutely! Many don’t, but, there’s almost always at least some to do it.
I’m disabled. I don’t give up my seat for anyone other than someone who is struggling more than me. Then I judge tf out of everyone who didn’t get up.
Yes. If I see someone who’s struggling for whatever reason, I’ll give them my seat. Sometimes, it’s a pregnant person, or someone carrying a child, or carrying stuff. It could be a person who’s injured, or wearing breakneck heels or even someone who just looks like they had a really long ass day at work. If someone who is older even remotely looks like they might need a seat, I ask.
So I guess I am now considered “older”. But I still do if I notice somebody who is having trouble standing or needs a seat and they just look tired I’ll gladly give up my seat
I find most times many people are eager to give up their seat, even on mass transit. I consider myself (50m) to be someone who will always give up their seat, and yet I rarely need to because someone else has already done it.
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I give up my seat to anyone who looks like they need it, including those older than me. My mam will haunt me if I don’t.
Not just seniors but parents struggling with a kid, pregnant women and anyone who needs it
I am not on public transit often but I usually don’t sit at all just because I healthy enough that’s standing is no big deal and I’d prefer it be used by anyone else might need it.
If they ask I will. The moment I’m sat down on public transport I will be on my phone, so I won’t notice otherwise
Yes, or for anyone I think needs it more than I do.
Yes always gonna be us one day karma and that
If I see someone who clearly needs the seat I give it to them. But I often have low blood pressure, especially when it’s hot outside, so there are times where I prefer not to give up my seat because I’m not feeling well enough to stand for a long period of time
I’m a gray haired late 50s woman and I give up my seat for anyone. Sometimes people offer me their seat and I usually refuse. It still shocks me because I forget I’m likely “elderly” to some of these younger folk.
The answer is yes. If I’m the reason that someone’s ancient lil grandma doesn’t get to sit down on a fast moving shuttle bus, my conscience will eat me alive.
Yes. They meet the criteria for giving up a seat. Other people include
I generally don’t mind standing if it makes someone elses day better.
Absolutely!
Yes, but I try to be discreet about it. I just stand up like I’m getting off at the next stop
Of course. Anyone struggling to stand or walk.
I have chronic pain due to various illnesses I have. If I’m having a good day and my body isn’t trying to take revenge on me for merely existing, I give up my seat not only for the elderly but to pregnant people, someone carrying childs or someone with disabilities.
If I’m in pain, I’m sorry but no, I physically can’t. That has gained me some ugly looks from folks in need for a seat. I’m young and I don’t “seem” sick but man, on those days where my body hates me, even sitting down hurts.
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i always sit upstaairs in the bus, and when im downstairs im never in the seats that is reserved for them
Depends. I’m 61 with arthritis and fibromyalgia. If I’m in pain no. If not and they are elderly (late 80’s and up) I would. Would I expect a 20 year old for giving up a seat for me? Hell no.
Not always, I have been disabled since I was 14. There are a lot of variables that go into whether or not I would give up my seat. Sometimes I would and sometimes I didn’t.
I am elder people.
No 💀
I’ll give a seat to anybody struggling more that I would if I were standing, except pregnant women because I don’t feel like their decision to procreate should be a burden on me unless I had something to do with the pregnancy. I will now be downvoted by the breeders and the it takes a village folks.
My knees and ankles are fucked up, so on a bad day I don’t, unless my stop is not far away or they really need it more than I do. If they’re rude, there’s no way I’m giving up my seat, I’ve had a middle aged woman scream at me for not standing up as soon as she entered the bus (I wasn’t even sitting next to the door and had a sprained ankle, so I could barely stand). Just because I’m young doesn’t mean I’m healthy and can’t be tired after hours of work.
The front seats are reserved for the elderly and disabled where I am. Is that not a thing everywhere?
But if those seats were taken of course I would.
Yes, always. I give it when people are looking like they need to sit down ! And if it’s an older person, I still ask even if they look fine. It’s social etiquette where I grew up in France
Always, and i struggle to stand for long periods of time and also maintaining my balance on a moving vehicle. But this was so ingrained into my brain from a very young age that it is just second nature. I just hold onto the pole or handhold for dear life and hope I don’t fall.
I’d offer up my seat to anyone older – it’s not that hard to figure out they may be traveling much farther than I am.
They’ll often refuse saying they’re getting off at the next stop.
Now, I’m 72 with COPD and don’t necessarily look ill or fatigued, but I definitely am.
If I ever take public transit again, I’m not sure how I’d survive – I’ve never had to ask for a seat before.
I might let the bus driver know when I board?
I’m an elder and will give my seat to someone who is worse off than me. I am strong and healthy.
Absolutely, it’s in my DNA as I was raised with class and I have a responsibility to show others that are watching me( hopefully young men) to install in the subconscious that it is more than a seat! I’m disabled and in my 50s and I won’t take the kindness if offered to me but the gesture is still meaningful
My husband and brother gives a seat to all women and men that appear over 50 or maybe could use a rest. I’m a woman and if I’m feeling strong, I will if I can. Sometimes, I’m not physically strong enough to stand up for a long time.
Absolutely, I always offer my seat.
I live in California, it’s the law that you give up your seat in the designated areas. If I’m sitting in one of those areas, I do give my seat to elderly and or the disabled. It’s usually the case that the elderly and or disabled go to those seats, rarely have I ever seen people taking those seats away from that group. But I’ll be honest, if I’m sitting in the back of the bus I don’t feel obligated to give my seat up, the front of the bus is designated for people who need a seat…why are you getting on in the back?
Of course! But anyone who needs it.
But once I had a guy that walked with a limp ask me (a chunky middle aged chick on the bus at 6:15am) to give up my side seat when there were plenty of forward facing seats. I said no to him and pointed to the empty seats. I think the bus driver was surprised but didn’t say a word.
I rarely ride public transportation, but if I’m awake, always.
If I’m not awake I often wake up to find the only empty seat is next to me.
Usually it is winter when I ride and people don’t like sitting next to a giant long haired nordic looking motherfucker in a black hoodie, black duster/overcoat/M65 field jacket, combat boots, and leather gloves.
Before I was disabled, yes.
Yes but they have to be full-on elderly, I’m not giving my seat to a 60 year old
I think everyone who is offered a seat should take it. This would encourage the practice more.
I would if I were able to. I mostly use my wheelchair when I know I’m going to use public transit. I avoid public transit as much as possible, though, because the drivers in my area hate wheelchair passengers. They have to get off their butts to strap us down. Oh, the horror.
I immediately offer my seat to people who seems to need it more than me. This may be a very old fragile person, a kid with their foot in a plastercast and so on. 60 is not old, with 70 it depends. Impairment can exist at any age.
We also have dedicated seats in busses and other public transportation for those groups. You can sit there as a fit person but are required to leave if someone from this group enters. So of course I will offer my seat even if there is sufficient space elsewhere. The average 80 to 90 old person will thank me and shake their head and head to a seat further in the back.
Regarding culture, I’m from Austria.
It honestly depends. One time this lady yelled at me for sitting down and not giving her my seat, claiming I was young and I should be standing and I was like 🤷🏻♀️. Not with you yelling at me, a complete stranger. You will have to grab me out this seat with your bare hands before I get up and give it to you.
I am the elder people now but in good shape. If I someone who needs it more I will gladly give my seat up.
Yes. Although I’m in my 50s and some people get offended that I think they need it more than me.
I’m 62 and sometimes use a cane because I’m in need of a knee replacement, and I’ll still give up my seat to someone who may need it more than me regardless of their age.
And if someone in better shape than me offers their seat I’ll thank them and accept it.
It’s about who needs it the most.
I’d say yes but it would depend on the day. Not so much attitude wise so much as if I was exhausted or sore from walking around all day.
Just the decent thing to do. It’s not like it takes a ton of effort and all you have to do is move a seat over. I don’t often use public transport but when I do I try and do this as much as possible for people who need it.
Honestly, i give my seat up for pretty much anyone who isn’t a younger man. All women, elder gents, you can have my seat. It’ll do my fat ass some good to stand against while.
100%.
Pregnant, tired parent, injured etc you name it. I have empathy.
Absolutely. That is how I was raised. I also give up my seat to a lady.
I’m disabled. I wear a hardcore knee brace. I’m pleasantly surprised by the number of people who offer me a seat.
Yes I would feel embarrassed not to.
30 years ago I was heavily pregnant and got on the bus to go to work . It was already quite full so I walked along the isle as the bus took off.
Suddenly a man unknown to me shouted from the front .
“Isn’t anyone going to offer their seat to the pregnant lady!!!?” . I was shocked tbh I hadn’t thought about it. No one reacted and he ordered me to come down to take his seat.
It was quite the surprise start to my day.
I used to now I can’t stand up myself tho
I always give up my seat to the elderly, pregnant, disabled, and parents with small children, because I would want someone to do that for my family.
I’m disabled but if it’s the last seat yes. I figure they’re even more disabled.
I give my seat to anyone that would be safer if they sat down. So a pregnant woman, an elderly man a young person with a broken leg, a mother with a lot of kids.
I am elder but sure if they are worse off than me
I seldom catch public transport anymore, but when I do- I always have and always will offer my seat to elderly people. Not just elderly people who appear to be frail or struggling, but all elderly folk. Respect for elders was a big part of how I was raised.
Yes, every time.
Priority seating in public transportation in Taiwan is basically just seating for old people now even though the government has make public announcements that it is also for the sick, tired, disabled, or pregnant. It’s actually become such an issue where some old people expect you to give up the seat and if you don’t they berate you. I never sit on those seats because I’ve been brainwashed since my youth into thinking I’m doing something negative if I sit there, it’s become a toxic topic in society.
I’m disabled and have had arguments with elderly people because they think I’m not disabled (my disability is invisible, and I wear a badge signifying this that is given to disabled people by London transport) and have tried to get me to move from the priority seat. Therefore I feel I’m just as entitled as elderly people to sit in the priority seat and I shouldn’t have to give up accessibility.
I would give my seat to almost anyone if they look like they need to sit.
Yes, ofc. Same with small children who would go flying if the bus came to a sudden stop
Absolutely. And I have taught my kids to do the same.
i do. just make sure to still occupy the seat before they come close enough to sit…. because of many opportunist will snatch it
I have an only mildly visible disability, which can affect my movement and my coordination if I stand up in an unstable environment and/or for too long. I could be more of a danger to other passengers standing up than sitting down. It also can cause me excruciating pain or discomfort. So, I’ll usually only give up my seat if there’s only a very short distance to my stop, and I’m confident that I’ll be able to make the rest of the journey standing up. If not, I’ll remain in my seat and feel guilty about it. I sometimes try to explain to the person in question why, and they’ve always been very sweet and understanding
Yep.
yes. I offer. I accept whatever response they give.
my dad declined seat offers in his 90’s. he also took them in his 90’s. a bus full of people who at least offer as if that’s the natural way for the world to be is one of those small everyday things that routinely make me proud of Canada.
I do but only to people who seriously need a seat based on my assumption.
I’ll give up my seat for anyone who needs in unless they are a jerk.
I do. generally, they have a harder time physically. no reason for me not to. same for a pregnant woman or person with a small child.
Standing is good exercise and should be seen as a grateful opportunity.
Always