My girlfriend has been acting distant for a while now

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My girlfriend (20 f) and I (23 m) have been together for 5 months back in around mid may she had some family issues that restricted her time for the relationship to which I understood it eventually progressed to us basically never speaking.

eventually around the end of June we managed to talk about it all and she told me she was unconsciously trying to distance herself from the relationship out of fear of us ending due to it all and because we hadn’t spoken or seen each other that the spark was dying (she ended up taking that back later in the weekend).

we spoke about it that whole weekend to which I gave her reassurance that I wasn’t gonna leave and that I loved her. Things picked back up a little with us talking a lot more and seeing each other a couple of times a week but we still have bad days where communication isn’t there between us and it’s rough.

If I bring it up to her (I have done a couple of times just to make sure everything’s okay) I get met with her saying everything’s fine and that she loves me. I don’t know if I’m just overthinking it all due to what we’ve just been through or if something is there still but I’d really just like to know what I could possibly do on the bad days to help if there even if anything I can do.

Tldr my girlfriend has been acting distant due to family problems we spoke about it and it picked back up between us but we still have bad days I’m wondering if anyone has advice on what I can do to help her if I can at all.

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  1. TeaseTrackTap Avatar

    Consistency and patience matter more than constant reassurance right now