Mil is an “ex” addict but if you ask any of her family they’ll tell you she has never had a drug problem. I had a c section 2 weeks ago and was given oxy pills, I had only needed to take one so I knew exact how many were left. I also take anxiety medication.
I couldn’t find my pill bottle of anxiety meds the other day and when we came back home I noticed they were nicely placed on my nightstand. I know I’m sleep deprived but I’m not that sleep deprived so I thought this was weird. I check and I see there is a lot missing. I go to check my other meds which I had hidden behind stuff and I open the bottle and see there’s only one oxy pill left. I show my husband to confirm I’m not going insane and he tells me how my mil randomly told him she was in our room “looking for the cat” earlier while we were gone. No one told her I had these pain meds so she must of just been looking through our stuff hoping I was given something after my surgery because I even noticed our trash can where we keep our babies dirty diapers was knocked over. She dug through my daughter’s dirty diapers hoping to find my medication.
We set up our baby monitor the next day to record any movement in our room and then left for the whole day. She spam texted us the whole morning asking us when we will be back home. Finally we get a notification and we see her go back to get the last pill and pretty much my last anxiety meds but was generous enough to leave one for me. Wow thanks.
When I got home I realized she had replaced the oxy pills with these random pills that look scarily similar, google says they’re for copd? If I still was in a lot of pain I probably would’ve taken them without noticing and wondered why I’m still in pain.
I am so pissed and so is my husband, she’s been walking around the house high for the past couple of days and her family is convinced she “just has anxiety.” I don’t know how anxiety would make you stumble around in circles and sleep on the living room floor because you fell off the couch but okay. Luckily we can afford to move out we just need to find an apartment and pretend everything’s okay until then so we both don’t lose our shit while our baby is in the house. I don’t even let her look at our daughter now and once we are moved out I won’t ever even send her a photo of her let alone let her see her. She’s been high my husband’s whole life, putting him in danger a million times because she was unable to care for him while she’s high off her ass and we won’t let our daughter grow up with that.
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She has stolen and tampered with your medication. You need to contact the police. This is a serious matter.
You have camera footage. File a report.
Kick her out.
Share the footage with family who complain and ask if they’d rather you take it to the police and have her charged with theft
What if you had a reaction to the pill she changed them for? What if you ended up seriously unwell because of her.. or worse. She could be in a Lot of trouble over this..
plus.. you might need your painkillers!!
3 c sections last one had horrific complications never got more than motrin, how did you walk out with oxys?
Stealing meds is horrible….. the fact that she replaced them with something that “matched” the physical description is poisoning you!!!
This is beyond scary to me. This isn’t just about not having painkillers…. She tried to drug with you with a random drug. Who knows the consequences of what that drug could have done to you or the baby if you are breastfeeding.
If she lives in your house your husband needs to remove her asap. Your safety is at risk. He needs to protect you from her. If you live in her house you need to move asap.
I sincerely wish you luck. I hope your husband will support you and protect you and your baby from his mother……
Don’t let her watch your kids, like ever.
Please kick her out and call the cops, she’s dangerous for everyone to be around.
Call the police. Report the medicine as stolen.
Please notify the police. This is so scary.
Some medications can pass through breastmilk to harm baby too.
You’re definitely a strong person to be able to handle minimum medication and not lose your shit on her.
I have a family member with a drug problem around narcos. I also have a locking cabinet i put anything stronger than aspirin in when they are going to be around.
If that were me I would get my MIL arrested. It’s smart that you set up a video camera in the room to catch her. She needs to learn a lesson to not steal from people, at least that’s what I would do. That’s awful OP I’m so sorry that happened I’m sure that you can go to the pharmacy or doctor’s office and explain what happened and get a refill if you need pain meds to help manage the pain.
Police report about the stolen
medication.
Go to the police.
Please go to the police.
You have it on camera, press charges for theft of prescription medication.
If you do not report her, do not ever complain about her again. Because you will be just as complicit in letting her get away with her bullshit, when you have her on camera dead to rights. If you do nothing, know that for the rest of your marriage, her being free and still a problem will be partially your fault for doing nothing now.
Sorry for tough love, OP. But goddamn. Go to the cops.
KICK HER OUT AND CALL THE DAMN COPS!!
If you’re breastfeeding she could’ve tainted your milk!
Hell, she could’ve killed either of you for all you know!
She’s a thief. A liar. And a danger. Get her gone. Anything less than scorched earth right now is doing nothing.
Ps. All I got after mine was Tylenol and Advil
The flair says no advice, so all I will say is I’m SO happy you didn’t take the COPD medicine she tried to trick you with. Good luck on the apartment search.
No such thing as an ex-addict. Had similar issue with a friends sister was watching my kids and i literally had just picked up meds from pharmacy after a finger amputation and sat on kitchen counter and came back later and 3 of 20 pills were missing and i had taken none. Called pharmacy and me confirmed four different camera views that 20 pills went in bottle. I also realized later that i had a left over bottle from the original ER visit that i had only taken 4 of those 20 and the bottle was completely gone. Lady never set foot on my property and definitely strained relations with buddy’s wife since she assumed sister was ‘clean,’. She spent years in prison for drugs. But no one acknowledged that she was the only person with access to steal the drugs. Fucking loser.
And why are you two just being doormats instead of calling the cops?
She stole schedule 1 drugs from you.
File a police report. This is the only right answer
You need to call the police and have them get her out of your home. You have video of evidence of her not only stealing your prescribed meds, but replacing them with ones that could be potentially dangerous for you. By not holding her accountable you are enabling her, putting yourself and your family in danger, and allowing her to put her own life in danger in your own home.
She cannot be there around you and your newborn. Point blank. Call the cops. Please.
This is one reason why all our meds live in a locked cabinet. Not that we have any addicts in the family, but some of our meds have street value and they aren’t optional for us to be functioning adults. Locks keep honest people honest.
And also, it’s not the business of any nosy relatives on any side what all we take for what condition.
Call the police
If you have video evidence why haven’t you gone to the police yet?
ETA: I realize you didn’t ask for advice. I posted this then realized, but I hope that anything I said could help the sleep deprived new parents. CONGRATS!
You now know that you can NEVER trust MIL again, especially with a newborn. Never leave your child in a room alone with her.
Do not bother arguing with her enablers. Put your head down to get out of there and focus on your little family. If it is your place, serve her with eviction and let her know you have footage of the drug theft. You do not need a lawyer to file.
Put a hasp lock with a padlock on your door and keep everything of value locked in the room when you are out. It takes minutes to install, and you won’t need to change out the door handle. I would also keep my baby in the room with me and the door locked when home.
This is serious. She replaced a new mother’s meds with another pill. She is a reckless idiot as well as an addict.
it appears they in MIL’s house. Get out ASAP. call the police.
Then, go NC for the rest of her life. When MIL complains, show her the video and anybody else who backs up MIL
Why have the police not been called? Why wasn’t she immediately confronted?
OP, I took a look at your post history, I am so sorry you & your SO got that message of a person in your life.
Wishing you better days