Hi first time posting. There is a bit of background to this question so bare with me while go into detail. I 42 M have a friend 42 F we’ll call Sue (Fake Name). We have been friends since we were in our early teens, and for the most part it’s been fine. But this one issue has come up and I don’t know how to deal with it. Long ago when I was in my early 20s I had a pregnancy scare with my girlfriend at the time. I determined I didn’t want to be a father so I had a vasectomy.
A couple of months after the procedure I was at Sue and her husbands home for a friendly get together, and she was commenting how she can’t wait to become a mother. I made a commented that I didn’t want to be a father, and she made a comment on how I would change my mind when I got my girlfriend pregnant. I told her about how that was impossible and my procedure. At which point her face became a mixture of confusion and disgust (I remember it well) and she replied “Why?” For a little while after that she would comment to me about my procedure and how it could be reversed, and how they sometimes reverse themselves. But that faded off after a time.
Fast forward to now however and a few months ago I was visiting her and her husband, and she was talking about her daughter. Then she asked me why I had never became a father. I reminded her that I had a vasectomy years ago. And once again she got the same confused and disgusted look on her face with the response “Still?” Since then she has been sending me emails about how easy it is to reverse the procedure. Telling me about how great a father I will be. And even when I have politely asked her to stop she hasn’t.
What I need help with is two part, one why is she doing this? And two how do I get her to stop? I’m 42 and single too old to be looking for somebody to start a family with, and her now constant nagging about this is grinding my gears.
TL;DR Friend won’t stop trying to get me to reverse my Vasectomy, help me stop her.
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Some people need to have others validate their life decisions, I think the next stop is to quit being polite and just be direct.