Anyone else deal with this kind of stuff? From the time I started puberty, Nmom found insidious little ways to humiliate me in front of any male she found attractive.
She’s a malignant hypersexual narcissist and views all women, regardless of age or relation, as serious competition.
And she never hesitated to throw me under the bus so she could preen in front of some random dude. An example of what she would do…
“Mom, please keep my personal stuff personal”
“What? So now I’m a criminal for saying you have diarrhea? I’m suddenly the bad guy cause you have the Hershey squirts?!?!?”
I was 17 and she said/screeched this in front of a guy she knew I had a crush on. Why? She found him attractive as well.
Of course you’d think I’d be used to her pathetic little ploys by then, but I walked right into it, again, just by confiding in her.
But that was the last time I ever confided in her. I lost interest in the dude as soon as I realized she was interested. And I stopped telling her anything personal because I’m pretty sure she ended up having an affair with him.
Yep, she’s a real piece of work. I’ve been NC for three years.
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Same, but she was my guardian who was also my silent gen/boomer-ish grandmother. She was the kind of pedo who didn’t have a preference, just wanted the power over someone smaller and weaker, but she loved to humiliate me in front of my male peers so she could tell me they wanted her instead 🤢 in front of people she was actually attracted to the humiliating was more intense but it always grossed me out that she was “flirting” with kids my age
I’m so sorry you have a mother like that too! Not only did Mommy Dearest like to point out any flaws in front of men, Granny loved to grab my boyfriends faces and forcibly kiss them on the mouth. That apple fell right under the damn tree! And they were both pissed that I didn’t start popping out babies when I turned 18.
Just know that any man who doesn’t see her for what she is doesn’t deserve you!
My sister used to embarrass me in front of people she was trying to become friends with, and the gc does similar to your mom. I just try to stay away from everybody best I can..
my mother did the same thing. she’d always yell from downstairs when me and my sister bought our bfs over, just to sit in the staircase and talk. if we pissed her off that day, we’d just prepare for the embarrassment lmao. she’d curse at us or say embarrassing things in front of them just to humiliate us. srry u went through that, it’s literally horrific.
I’ve heard of this shit on this sub before. They’re insanely JEALOUS and want to sabotage any potential relationship you might have, so they can not only potentially have that person to themselves but also to keep CONTROL of you by driving any potential partners away from you. Because a partner might see them as the abusive gnats they are, and you might go VLC/NC with the N and they can’t allow that to happen.
Your mum is disgusting! Good on you going NC on that nasty cow. I suspect she behaves appallingly all because she feels threatened by your youth and beauty. How pathetic does she have to be. She must be the reincarnation of Snow White’s narcissistic and shallow stepmother the evil queen except a more hypersexualised version. Ewww
You done well cutting that woman out of your life because I shudder the thought of you having a prospective fiance or future husband your mum ends up trying to bed that man just to steal him away from you and try to destroy your hypothetical relationship or marriage. This would be abnormal and unacceptable behaviour coming from herÂ
It’s not exactly the same, but my nmom would do similar shit. Like she was jealous that my dad loved me more than her (they had this extremely toxic codependent relationship, and he’d always leave to get away from her, and she’d come right back). I remember once she played a song on my playlist that was inappropriate just to get me in trouble with my dad and act like she didn’t think he’d get mad at me, instead of confronting me like a healthy parent. Or when she tried making me open up my sex toy package in front of my family to embarrass me, and when I didn’t open it because I’m a grown adult who deserves privacy, she started telling them what was probably in it. She’d constantly say sexual stuff in front of me, even after I’d tell her to stop… (I repressed a lot of things, and there must be so much more). Regardless, I’m just glad I’m NC.