Ok so I’m sitting in my room, minding my business…then I get a ping. It’s a text from my best friend who we’ll call Jim. Nothing right?
WRONG.
Yet another FaceApp monstrosity bro. On the left is me as a man: broad jaw, trimmed beard, suspiciously perfect skin. On the right is him as a girl: lashes for days, soft glam makeup, looking like he’s auditioning for Love Island. Caption is something like
“Us if you stopped playing games and picked me up at 8 🥰.” Like sir what?
This has been happening daily. He takes MY face, slaps a Y chromosome on it, gives HIMSELF a BBL and lashes, and then sends us back to me like we’re starring in some alternate universe Wattpad fanfic. He sends fake wedding photos, fake beach selfies, even fake “us at brunch” AI candid pics. One time he edited me holding a baby (his baby) and said “We’d be such good dads 🥺”
WE??? BE??? WHO IS WE??? And IM NOT A HE
At first, I laughed cuz it’s so unreal. “Haha, okay, funny.” Then it kept happening. And happening. And one day I realized: I’m being digitally recruited into someone’s Sims game of the mind and I didn’t even get a say.
I confronted him. I said, “Hey… this makes me uncomfortable.”
He said, “Oh my God, it’s not that deep. You know I’m gay. I just like imagining what it’d be like if we were a straight couple but, like, reverse.”
What does that even mean??? Why am I the Dollar Tree version of his ideal boyfriend??? Why is he doing fantasy Photoshop cosplay and dragging me into it like I’m a stock image with no rights???
I support gay people and everything of course. But this is not allyship. This is like emotional taxidermy. I’m being stuffed, propped up, and paraded around in a fantasy I did not consent to.
The worst part? He thinks it’s romantic. He said I’d make such a hot guy and I could ruin his life😭
I feel gross and weird. I just don’t know how to say, “Hey, stop rebranding my face and shipping us I don’t like it” without sounding like a monster who doesn’t get jokes. But I also don’t want to wake up one day and see myself FaceApped onto a pregnancy announcement with the caption “it’s giving DILF 😩.” Cause I know it’s not impossible.
I love him he’s my best friend but please tell me I’m not insane and not being sensitive. Please tell me there is a way to set a boundary that doesn’t end with me becoming the unwilling muse of his aesthetic boyfriend scrapbook.
Comments
You’re not overreacting, that’s seriously crossing a boundary. Tell him flat out to stop or you’ll block every single cursed FaceApp creation he sends.
Any friend who discounts your feelings by saying it’s not that serious then explaining exactly what theyre doing that’s making you uncomfortable saying “I’m just…”, is no friend.
> I feel gross and weird. I just don’t know how to say, “Hey, stop rebranding my face and shipping us I don’t like it” without sounding like a monster who doesn’t get jokes. But I also don’t want to wake up one day and see myself FaceApped onto a pregnancy announcement with the caption “it’s giving DILF 😩.” Cause I know it’s not impossible.
Of course you feel gross and weird, you can say exactly that, if he says it’s just a joke, be like “I get that, it’s not funny, fucking stop”, he’ll be like “omg ok relax…”, don’t let him manipulate you into saying its not a big deal when it is a big deal
This is a situation that IMO serious enough to question your friendship.
Just because he’s gay does not excuse this behavior. Imagine if you change the sexes of the party involved, a man doing that to a woman, people are insntantly creeped out, right?
This is the same, creepy behavior as you have mentioned how unconfortable it makes you already.
The title sounds like some shitty anime or webcomic lmao.
Nah, but that’s really creepy.
Tell him to cut it out. If he doesn’t, you might want to consider ending the friendship.
It’s a boundary you set, and he’s constantly breaking it, I would end a friendship over this, but im not trying to project.