Me and this guy have been friends with benefits for 2 years (on and off) but he doesn’t want to be serious. I feel like half of it is BS though. I told my friends about him and they agree that it is a big age gap. I told him if he wants to be friends then why does he want to have sex still. He says that it’s partially my fault too about having intimacy. However he helps me by letting me stay at his house sometimes and doesn’t let me pay for things. I hate the feeling of not wanted to be taken seriously and having a casual relationship. I want something real and not a situationship. Maybe I should stop talking to him or else I will be more hurt in the process.
TL;DR – my situationship says he doesn’t want anything serious because he’s too old for me but still wants to be friends and even have intimacy. Should I stop calling him
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>> then why does he want to have sex still.
Because he can. Cut him off.
> if he wants to be friends then why does he want to have sex still.
Oh girl.
oldest trick in the book
>I hate the feeling of not wanted to be taken seriously and having a casual relationship.
Then what are you doing here?
I mean, obviously. You should be grateful he doesn’t pretend to want to date you. No 40 year old is looking for a healthy, respectful relationship with a 25 year old, but they will normally date them anyway.
Are you a sugar baby? Because there’s no relationship here and he has told you as much. Enjoy the monetary benefits or stop seeing him. He doesn’t want to commit to you and may even be married to someone else.