My boyfriend and I have been together for five years. We’ve been through a lot ups and downs, personal growth, deep healing but we’ve always found our way back to each other. Now we’re talking seriously about marriage. He feels it’s the right time. He believes it’ll strengthen our bond and make things truly official. I agree. I made up my mind a long time ago he’s the one I want to grow old with. He’s my best friend and my peace. It feels right. It feels like we’ve earned this next step. For those who are married or engaged any advice before we take the leap? What helped you know you were ready? What do you wish someone had told you?
TL;DR:
After five years together, my boyfriend and I are seriously discussing marriage. We love each other, have been through a lot, and feel like it’s time. He believes it’ll strengthen our bond. I agree. Looking for advice from those who are married or engaged—what helped you feel ready?
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Marriage won’t strengthen your bond if it’s not already strong enough for the commitment of marriage.
And we’re invited right?
When they say for sicker or poorer, its for real. Wiping and cleaning up your spouse after they become disabled or injured is like loving a child. True loves allows you to easily choose to do so and each time you just are just as happy to be there for them.
Pre marital counseling is always a good idea. Figure out how to be very kind AND very honest. Embrace each other’s goofy bullshit. Know that it is normal to be pissed at your partner occasionally but it is not normal to feel despair. If you are feeling lonely, say that instead of using blaming language.
Have you traveled together? That’s always a good measure of how a marriage will work.