Am I the only one who hates how sexualized bending over is? I dropped some boxes at work and had to bend over to get them. I felt weird because there was a man walking behind me 😩. I always try to bend over with my knee. Today, I didn’t . I bent over like normally and felt weird about it :/
It’s so stupid.
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It’s a vulnerability thing for me. If I’m wearing pants or long skirts or dresses, I feel less vulnerable and will bend without thinking. I’m more concerned with people seeing my underwear, directly or the outline of it.
It’s safer to have spatial awareness and not bend over where you can’t see the person behind you. They can tip you over or worse you bump into things with your dump truck D:
Not particularly, I personally don’t care in everyday life and I enjoy it when In the presence of someone I’m in a relationship with.
But to me there are different ways to bend over depending on what I need to pick up compared to when I WANT to give someone a show.
Same time I know people, especially men will masturbate to anything, ANYTHING.
So I’m pretty desensitized to it.
I thought nothing of it until one evening I was at a pub with my friends, I bent over, and some creepy guy came over to tell me that his friends and him could not resist the sight of me bending over so would I please not do it again.
I wanted to die. It was after some work event so I was wearing plain black slacks and a black long sleeved shirt. About as unprovocative as it could get
Adolescent males goose each other when they bend over. It’s a form of horseplay, or in adult terms, bullying. The only effective response I have found to bullying is immediate punitive response. The woke movement was an attempt to shame bullies into not being bullies, and has failed. I was a nurse union organizer, and we developed a system of punitive response to physician bullying, called it witnessing. When the incident occurs, the rest of the workgroup gathered silently around the offender, and the bullied nurse doke truth to power. We used pearlcorders to document the incident, but phone video technology works even better. It’s terrifying the first time, but it becomes comfortable and satisfying thereafter. And it’s better than responding to violence with violence, usually.
I try to squat down if possible so my butt isn’t right up in the air, better form for lifting something too. But yeah it would be great if more men were just…decent.
The guy didn’t sexualize it, you just thought he might? You gotta get out of your head about it. Whenever I have to bend over in front of my boyfriend I waggle a little so I’m sexualizing myself on purpose. When I have to bend over at work I just do it and no one has ever started or cared.
I just want to enjoy eating a banana 🍌
It’s the bend and snap. 🎶
Bending or squatting to pick something up. Eating cylindrical food.
Yes someone might be thinking about you.
Same with eating a banana
Isn’t it only really sexulaised if it’s a female doing it?
Bend at the knees to protect your back! u/femalevirginpervert
I lift and transfer heavy things daily, use your knees and hold it close to your core. Never just bend at the waist.
I own a dog boarding kennel and the work involves a lot of bending over – opening run doors, feeding dogs, cleaning runs etc. I do not hire straight men as I don’t want the bending over to feel awkward for the lovely young women who work for me. Men manage to make everything feel creepy.
I bend at the knees and don’t bend over in most situations because of how uncomfortable it makes me feel in public.
I do some gardening in my front yard, and I go out of my way not to present my butt to people driving by. It’s just one more thing I shouldn’t have to think about.
Men will never understand all the million tiny little things we have to worry about every day just to exist in public
I was filling up the bird feeders and had to bend over the buckets of birdseed, in the front yard. I was very conscious of the bend, because people are either staring at your ass or looking down your shirt. Sigh. Changed to a squat.
That’s why I crouch I drop right down like a bucket in a well
Bending? Lift with your legs not your back!
Well ergonomically speaking you shouldn’t be bending at the hips anyways. Bending at the knees is proper form to protect your spine.
But alas, Legally Blonde set it all into motion with the ‘bend and snap’ move lmao
This is amazing to me – how were you socialised that you feel sexualised when you bend over normally? Are you American? This seems a really unhealthy level of obsession with yourself as constantly a sexual object. I mean if your coworkers were commenting on your ass when you bend over that’s bad. But you’re not describing that – has that even ever happened? Why do you feel like bending over sexualised you? Perhaps this is culturally just how the United States socialises women? But do you have to buy into it?