My gf and I work and live in different states. Everything is quite swell so far. And because of our work schedules we really need to plan and then spend time together. We are both schooling on the side too.
FYI, I had moved out and was in another state but because of work transfer and school, my parents asked me to come back to live with them since work is in the same state as them and literally a 10mins drive from them.
Yesterday was my birthday and she wasn’t around which I totally understand. We spoke about it in the evening and she asked if she could come to my state and see me. But I would have to let her know if it would be possible since she has work and school. I told her that I would even be traveling with my parents to another state for a family member’s funeral over the weekend and for the rest of the week it’s gonna be tight since I have work. Also work this week has been hectic because of an upcoming merger hence I’ve been leaving the office at 10pm and back in the office at 7am. And she’s aware of this.
This morning I text her good morning like I always do only for her to tell me that she’s on her way to my state. I’m like oh why and she said to see me. Now I first of all I think it’s cute but I like to plan stuff and she knows.
Also she’s not going to stay at my parents place, her parents have a place here and the its 1hour away from me.
I told her that we have planned to this another time and she goes like she was hoping I’d make time for her and that no pressure
I’m frustrated and annoyed and happy at the same time because why would you do this when we have decided to plan it for another time. Also my position at my job, I can’t up and leave because everything is time bound and I’m even behind schedule and she knows this.
She’s also coming by bus and and I’m like whyyy. I’ve asked her to turn back and that when this whole thing is over I’d come to her. But she says no she’s coming.
Now I dunno why she would do this to stress me. Work is already stressing me out and she knows this so I’m just here like ughhh.
Sorry if what I’ve typed doesn’t make sense I just needed to air out how I’m feeling right now. Sorry
PS. She is way behind schedule at work because she has to combine it with school and she’s been telling me that her boss has been giving her crap for it. She has on her desk work that she is 2 weeks behind schedule and she didn’t even ask for time off, she just up and left. I brought it to her attention just now and she’s like she’d inform her colleague.
Like uggghhhhh
How do I approach this?
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Be grateful. Someone wanted to see you and your first response is the stress it will give you. Your first response is that the situation will be a burden.
Be grateful that she wants to see you and once you see her, don’t treat her the way you are thinking right now: a burden, a stress, an inconvenience,