I’ve been dating this girl, 20F, since November of last year, and we are in a long-distance relationship. I found her through an online dating app. When we first started dating, she told me she didn’t use Instagram, only Snapchat. However, last month, I randomly searched for her name and found her Instagram account, which was created in February 2025. When I asked her about it, she said her roommates had recently created it. I accepted this explanation and didn’t think much of it.
Later, I asked her to accept my follow request, but she refused, saying she didn’t want her friends to find out about us. This led to the biggest fight in our relationship, but eventually, she accepted my follow request.
Then, yesterday, while I was using Snapchat, l received a suggestion for a friend based on her number. When I confronted her about it, she claimed it was her old account that she had just recently activated, but then deleted. I was really upset that she had hidden this from me. I suggested that we both share our social media passwords, but she replied that she didn’t know the passwords for her accounts.
I told her not to lie to me, and she insisted that she genuinely didn’t remember the passwords. She explained that her Instagram account was created by her roommates, and as for her current Snapchat account, she couldn’t recall the password since it had been almost two years.
When I shared this situation with my friends, they said she was lying and accused her of possibly cheating on me. They urged me to reconsider my trust in her. I just want a neutral opinion on this situation, without anyone else knowing. What do you all think? Aside from these issues, she genuinely makes me happy.
Edit:- Ok so I forgot to add a key detail which I thought wasn’t necessary in January this year she broke up with me saying I was immature the next day she apologised and got back together
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Something is definitely weird about the fact that she didn’t want you on your insta. Did she say why? Cause why would she want to hide you from her friends you’ve been dating for more than half a year. Do they know she has a boyfriend? Even this thing itself seems weird so if you could give more details.
The Snapchat thing could be believable but combined with the first thing I do think it’s sus. Don’t make conclusions yet tho.
From an outside perspective it looks like she’s lying to you but whether she is or not in the most relevant thing here.
Do you trust her? You can’t be in an equal loving relationship with someone you don’t trust.
Hi, u/ThrowRAVeterinarian5
I am going to be as objective on this matter as I possibly can. You two have been in a relationship for 8 months now, and she has not already introduced you to her friends. I do consider people innocent until proven guilty, so I won’t say that she is cheating, but I do consider that to be a red flag. As for the passwords: on one hand, it does sound like she is changing stories a bit. On the other hand, benefit of the doubt; I am useless with remembering passwords myself.
What I would suggest you do is don’t do something stupid, like make a burner account and spy on her. I would confront her, face to face, and I would just tell her what you feel, that you feel like she is hiding something from you, and you just want honesty. The ball is in your court, and you can do whatever you feel is right, based on what she says. Good luck.
Ya man. She ain’t loyal. Move on