Am I valid for still being upset?

February of 2024 I start dating my husband.. we were 19 yes we got married young please don’t be rude. We’re happy now(he cut his parents off.) his mom was excited for him, but would always call him home super early or some days not allow him out. He was 19 tho. Is this weird? One time it was dark out and his plan was to ride me home on his bike while I rode mine, to keep me safe. She said absolutely not bc it was past 9 pm on a school night. I rode home alone in the dark & had a panic attack. She’d let me spend the night on weekends and we’d sleep in the same bed but he shared a room w his brother, so we went to my house a lot for genuine privacy. Which made her upset bc he started to spend more time there, they said overtime he changed and their only back up is him being spiteful towards his mom and hanging out with his brothers less. As time goes on in this relationship they get angrier and angrier bc he spends a lot of time with me. Mind you I had a job before he went into the navy in September of 2024 so I worked 40 hours a week. We liked to spend time when I was off. I felt guilted to spend more of my time at their house bc they kept saying I’m welcome anytime and there’s no reason to not come over. She was really overwhelming and overbearing. Fast forward we get married August of 24’ and he tells his parents that is what he wants to do before leaving for bootcamp, they get mad , defensive, and say no. So we eloped, they find out and say a bunch of hurtful things. His mom tells me I’m not a woman, his dad says he doesn’t even know if I deserve his son, his mom says his adhd will fade and he’ll get bored of me. It was just an overall confusing situation bc they were always nice to my face until then. A week after we got married they started being nice to me again but what they said stuck with me and I started to realize how much they controlled our relationship.. he ships off to bootcamp and my mil analyzes all of my tiktok reposts, she would message me when I reposted my love for my husband she said it felt like a slap in the face because I wasn’t acknowledging he had a loving family. He comes into town for Christmas break December 24 and they accuse me of isolating him..bc we liked to spend time in the room they dedicated to us. We tried our best to spend time with them when we were comfortable.. his dad always would tell me he’s so hateful towards his mother. He drops her and his dad texts him you’re mother will love you more then anyone else. I guess what was bothering me this entire time is this whole narrative my husband betrayed his family ever since he met me it’s so exhausting. We haven’t talked to them for a month or two now and last time we did was only bc his dad claimed him on his taxes even though he had no right too and I called him out and he said text me when you feel like fixing my relationship with my son that you control. There’s so much. I’m in therapy. I’m getting put on medication. And I’m getting diagnosed with bpd. So I can’t tell if I’m too sensitive or crazy.