Long story short, I met this guy and ended up really liking him. He’s always had a naturally flirty personality and would give me mixed signals that made me question where we stood. Over time, we became pretty close, and now we’re genuinely good friends. Of course, the feelings didn’t just disappear, but I’ve done my best to manage them so they don’t interfere with the friendship.
Fast forward to last night, I hung out one-on-one with my girl friend (who’s also part of our group), and out of nowhere she mentioned that the same guy had been touchy with her a few nights ago when we were drunk. I tried to play it cool and asked if she was into him, and she told me she wasn’t planning on pursuing anything out of respect for me.
Later that day, our whole friend group hung out. Everything seemed normal, but after most of us left, she and the guy stayed behind. I checked their locations later and saw they had moved to a secluded parking lot until around 4 a.m. Then this morning, I woke up to find his location still at her house.
I know I shouldn’t jump to conclusions, and I know they’re both allowed to make their own choices, but it just hurts. It feels like a betrayal in this weird, quiet way. I’m not even sure I have the right to be upset, but I am. I feel sick about it, and I don’t know how to act around either of them now. pretty obvious what happened. I’ve been feeling sick to my stomach the whole day and I feel both betrayed and hurt that they would both do that. However, I am trying to accept this as a sign that me and him were never meant to be. Any advice?
TL;DR – My friend slept with our guy friend that she knew I had feelings for.
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>…It feels like a betrayal in this weird, quiet way.
It’s not betrayal unless you made it clear you were pursuing him and asked her to back off.
Otherwise, this is all on the dude who you admit is naturally flirty, touchy feely and with added alcohol lowering inhibitions.
He likely had no idea you were into him since you never made a move and you dialled down the relationship to friends.
Do not screw your friend over about this, the guy was a loose cannon and hooked up with a pretty girl.
Maybe go tell him how you feel?
Drop him and the friend. She said she would never do that to you and she did. Respect yourself to cut ties when someone crosses your boundaries.
Well all I’d say is that you chose not to pursue a more intimate relationship with him and chose to just be friends. He and your female friend like each other and seem to have decided to have a relationship that may lead to something more permanent. Honestly I can’t see that they’ve done anything wrong.
People check their friends locations?