I have friend who is honestly a challenge for me. And I enjoy that about her! I don’t want to live in an echo chamber and I do think a lot of the ”challenges“ are my own issues. She‘s a good friend to me.
Her life has changed recently to where she is more social because of it. Which makes a part of her personality that wasn’t brought up as much before more front and center. So I knew this about her previously but it came up seldom enough that I didn’t get too annoyed by it but now it’s on strong.
I know people need to know what it is so it’s that shes crazy boastful. “I am better than these people at X”, “This part of me is so intersting/fabulous that I have these assorted people interested“, “No one I know is as X as me.”
I struggle with this because a woman being confident… yay! But something still just grates on my last fucking nerve! And when something annoys you it just seems to take up so much space. I want to get passed it, but I really don’t know if this is a me problem and I also find myself needing to vent but I am wary of it end up just being “gossipy” with mutual friends.
TLDR I want to be a good friend and this person is challenging the adulting I’m trying to do so I need someone to explain friending like I’m five right now.